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Originally posted by C0mmie
Are there any animals out there except for humans that practice monogamy? As far as I can recall, humans are the only ones that do while all of the species that are biologically closer to humans practice polygamy. I guess it wouldn't be too far fetched to say that its more natural for a mammal to practice a polygamous lifestyle, and may very well be in our genes.
Originally posted by wuliheron
Humans are not monogamous. At best some of us practice sporadic monogamy, cheating on our mates periodically. True monogamy is extremely rare among animals, and among mammals less than two percent practice monogamy of any kind. Birds practice monogamy to an even greater extent than people, but they are sporadic as well.
Originally posted by Kerrie
very true within our genetics, but socially we are taught that it is the "normal" and good way...what is even more interesting is that gay couples also follow this social standard...
first off, polygamy does still exist in the mormon culture, just not "legally" -hence, the marriage is not recognized by the state...but, the marriage is acknowledged by the mormon church...
Again, this is not just our genetics, it is not nature vs nurture, it is nature and nurture
Originally posted by RageSk8
Actually, the Mormon church internally outlawed polygamy in 1890 - all those who are found to practice polygamy are excomunicated from the church. I know this because I was raised a Mormon.
do you reside in utah? yes, it is out lawed but still occurs on the religious level...
Originally posted by C0mmie
Are there any animals out there except for humans that practice monogamy? As far as I can recall, humans are the only ones that do while all of the species that are biologically closer to humans practice polygamy. I guess it wouldn't be too far fetched to say that its more natural for a mammal to practice a polygamous lifestyle, and may very well be in our genes.
Originally posted by RageSk8
Those polygomists that you see on television are not members of "The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints" - they are associated with splinter groups not recogonized by the Mormon church. Polygamy is unheard of in the major cities - Salt Lake, Provo (where both my siblings were born) - and is generally only found in rural communites. Again, if you practice polygamy in the Mormon church you get excomunicated.
television? assumptions are not a good habit to get into this information i received was from a co-worker who visited utah extensively and has a degree in relgious studies...
Originally posted by RageSk8
Then he doesn't know what he is talking about. "Degree in religious studies" in this case most likely means "dislikes Mormons". Your information is frankly false.
Originally posted by Zantra
I have enough trouble keeping one woman happy
Originally posted by Zero
SO pick up an extra husband...problem solved!
See, the trick is, you make sure there are close to equal numbers of each...and you get out of doing dishes much more frequently!Originally posted by Zantra
But see to me, that is self-defeating. It's basically no better than being single. Worse actually, because at least when you're single you live alone!
Originally posted by Kerrie
the whole point of a spouse is to be committed to one person for reasons that help you be a better person...if you choose to be with more then one person at a time, no reason to marry...
Originally posted by Dissident Dan
As far as the raising children thing goes, what studies do you have to back it up. I doubt that you do, although I don't have any studies for the opposite, so we're just arguing in the realm of theoretical if we argue this. I have heard that in some tribes, the whole village raises children. I can see some potential good aspects to this:
1) It encourages a sense of community. I know that in the USA, at least, kids tend to be very greedy, maybe that would put some perspective on things that would make them more sharing.
2) The children are exposed to a wider number of viewpoints early on, developing critical thinking skills and being less subjected to the same prejudices that their "always right" parents were
However, there are potential negatives as well:
The children might not have strong close relationships with adults that provide the love and nurturing that are good for kids. Each kid won't be lost in the crowd. This also provides the kids with the ability to feel "special" (which could also be a negative, if you refer back to the greed/community thing).
Either way, this is a pointless topic of debate for those who won't or can't have children. [/B]
Originally posted by Kerrie
the major problem with children having many different parental figures is inconsistency...as a parent myself of two children, having too many authority figures with different views of raising children is very confusing for a child...there is a reason why nature has two people as the biological parents and not any more...
i am not against (personally) what people do outside their marriage (as far as switching partners), as it is none of my busines...but when the law allows things such as polygamy to happen, it begins to affect children who are typically raised in a marriage in a country that mostly promotes a monogamous marriage...
Originally posted by Gale17
personally, i'd love to reproduce with any number of partners and have it be the norm. i'd love to have more than one person to love me. i'd love to have even been a child with tons of parents, each one who could tell me different stories and give me presents. i'd love to have tons of siblings, i'd love it all. but that's just me, and I'm probably just trying to justify having sex with lots of different people
Originally posted by Gale17
I'd marry you both, but i fear my mother may oppose, I'm a bit young for either of you
and as far as orgies go in polygamy, it'd never once even crossed my mind to have it practiced that way. heh... not that i'd mind too much... but I'm pretty sure it's usually mono e mono in the bedroom. but i too would like to know for sure
so she'd be against our ages, but the polygamy thing is ok?