Boustrophedon's original post says that some books and articles are using the term "proper" incorrectly. The people who replied to that seem to think that B has either read some bad articles, or simply misunderstood them. I have a different suggestion. I think the books and articles are using the term "proper" correctly, and that B is wrong about what would be correct usage.
The "proper" quantities can always be determined by the coordinates of co-moving
inertial observers.
The proper time along a curved world line is the sum of time coordinate increases of an infinite sequence of inertial frames.
(A curved world line can be approximated by N straight line segments of equal length. Each straight line segment corresponds to an inertial frame. The time coordinate of this inertial frame increases from one end of the straight line segment to the other. The sum of these increases approximates the proper time. The approximation is exact in the limit N --> infinity.)
The proper length of an accelerated object is the sum of spatial coordinate increases of an infinite sequence of inertial frames. (Imagine N points on the object. The tangent to the world line of each point is the time axis of an inertial frame. The space axis of this inertial frame assigns a spatial distance between one point and the next. The sum of all these distances approximates the proper length. The approximation is exact in the limit N --> infinity).
The proper acceleration is the second derivative of the space-time coordinates of a co-moving inertial frame with respect to proper time.
Boustrophedon said:
I frequently come across the statement that "the "proper acceleration" of the rear end of an accelerated rigid rod must be greater than that of the front end."
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Since co-moving observers verify a constant "proper" length for the rod, and an observer at each end will record the same "proper" time, then by definition the "proper" acceleration must surely in fact be identical at each end of the rod, whether they are measured by inertial accelerometers or by reference to the background inertial frame.
You're making a mistake here. You're assuming that the world lines of each part of the rod is identical except for starting position. But the statement that you "frequently come across" is a statement about Born rigid motion, and that contradicts your assumption.
Boustrophedon said:
So although the platform clocks are perfectly synchronised to the guy on the platform, the train rider's judgement of "simultaneity" has tilted "upward" or forward in time ahead of him while dipping backward in time behind, so that "now" ahead of him is later in time than for the platform in that direction, and he therefore regards the clocks as set forward in time.
Now what happens as the train accelerates from rest ? The "lines of simultaneity" at every point of the train start parallel and smoothly rotate so as to increasingly tilt forward in time towards the front and backwards in time towards the rear.
You seem quite focused on the idea of using accelerating frames, but you also seem to underestimate the problems with accelerating frames. I believe that what you're thinking is something like this:
If an inertial observer draws the world line and the lines of simulaneity of another inertial observer, the slope of the world line is 1/v and the slope of the lines of simultaneity is 1/v. This seems to imply that the "line" of simultaneity of an accelerating observer must bend upwards, as the observer's world line bends to the right. These "lines" (actually curved space-like hypersurfaces of Minkowski space) seem to be good candidates for what the accelerating observer should call "space" at different times.
If it really makes sense to say that these space-like hypersurfaces are "space" at different times, for an accelerating observer, the length of the object as measured by him/her must be sqrt(ds^2) integrated along a curve in "space", from one end of the object to the other.
There are plenty of reasons why this doesn't make sense. The strongest one is that the length of the object would depend on how its velocity is going to change in the future.