wittgenstein said:
I laid out two possibilities.
1. Before the collapse there is an actual reality ( particle or not), its just that we don't know what that reality is.
2. Before the collapse there is no reality regarding particle or not.
What did I get wrong? What other alternative is there? A or not A, show me something else. I did not take a side as to 1 or 2 . I merely asked which is it. And I get all this irrational name calling about how I know nothing.
And the short answer is: The next Nobel Prize in Physics will go to the PF-user in this thread that can answer this question!
Honestly, I think I know what you are "going thru"... been there myself so to speak...
You must be careful when making "statements" here at PF, especially on Quantum Physics. Example:
wittgenstein said:
Good grief! ... How am I supposed to respond to that? It is so obviously a misunderstanding that any explanation would be like saying 1+1=2 and that would only be insulting.
If I were a "QM Bloodhound" looking for some "fun", I would reply:
What do you mean by saying "1+1=2"...? Everyone with slightest knowledge of QM knows that 1 + 1 = 3. Please explain!?
(
This is the truth) And now a "funny quarrel" would begin, where I could play with you as much as I want, because you have absolutely no idea what I’m talking about, right?
But don’t pay too much attention to that "game"; just continue asking what you want to know.
My personal layman’s guess is that you are actually referring to the famous http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bohr%E2%80%93Einstein_debates" , right?
In 1925 Werner Heisenberg’s matrix equations removed space and time from any underlying reality, and in 1926 Max Born proposed that the QM was to be understood as a probability without any causal explanation, and in 1927 Heisenberg and Born declared that the revolution was over and nothing further was needed.
This was too much for good old Einstein and his skepticism turned to dismay, and he spent the rest of his life finding a better "description" of the microscopic world, without any success.
The "peak" of the Einstein-Bohr Debate was afaict the 1935 paper with the title
"Can Quantum-Mechanical Description of Physical Reality Be Considered Complete?", better known as the http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/EPR_paradox" (
mentioned by ZapperZ).
Until this point Niels Bohr had "dismantled" any "objection" from Einstein swift and easy. But this was something else. It took Bohr five months to reply and his paper had the exact same title:
(... and some say Bohr didn’t even understand "the problem" ...)
Anyhow, the debate between Einstein & Bohr continued, and was never settled.
A quick jump to present knowledge, we know thanks to John Bell, Alain Aspect and Anton Zeilinger et al. that Einstein was wrong – Local Hidden Variables (LHV) and Local Realism is as dead as the Norwegian Blue Parrot. It just doesn’t work, period.
You can have non-local realism, or local non-realism, or non-local non-realism, but
NOT Local Realism.
(A better word for non-realism is http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/physics-holism/" )
As you can see, the present knowledge of QM cannot be answered with
1 or
2, it’s much more "multifaceted" than that (
that’s why some are "upset" 
). But the good news is that a lot of geniuses are working hard on the solution!
P.S. Good info on the Einstein-Bohr Debate:
David Kaiser - Associate Professor MIT
http://web.mit.edu/dikaiser/www/Kaiser.AENB.pdf"
British Journal for the History of Science 27 (1994): 129-152.