JulianM said:
When I say orthogonally what I mean is, if one arrives very slightly ahead of the other, or even a narrow miss, they will be at 90 deg to each other.
I don't want to get out of my depth on this, but we have been taught that there is only relative motion and no ground frame, but I am very, very confused.
When someone says "all motion is relative", you have to understand the context in which that is meant. What it means is that you cannot assign a definite, absolute velocity to anything. In your example of the cars, someone might say that one car is traveling at ##90km/h##. But that is relative to the road. The road is on the surface of the Earth, which is spinning at ##1000km/hr## and the Earth itself is orbiting the Sun at whatever speed.
It also means that when two objects are in relative motion, you cannot say absolutely that one is moving and the other is not. In each object's rest frame it is the other object that is moving. And, in a third frame, both objects may be moving.
So, your car has no definite, asbolute velocity. Only a velocity in a given frame of reference. The ground frame, which is perfectly valid by the way, is as good a frame as any. In fact, we use it all the time. Game of football, tennis, whatever. The obvious reference frame to study a tennis match is in the ground frame!
Hopefully that explains that.
Back to your problem, which is a good question in fact. There are three obvious frames of reference in which to study this problem: the rest frame of each car; and the ground frame.
To repeat, angles and trajectories are frame dependent. If you were a traffic controller, then your frame would no doubt be the ground frame. Let's assume car A is heading East/right along the x-axis and car B is heading North/up along the y-axis. These paths are clearly at right angles to each other.
If you are in car A and use your rest frame to analyse the problem, then car B is coming at you from the bottom-right (South-East). In your rest frame, therefore, car B is not moving north up the y-axis, but at an angle, somewhere is the NW direction.
One key point to note is that if there is a collision, then it doesn't matter which frame you use, the results of the crash (if you correctly apply the laws of physics) will be the same.