spacecadet2563 said:
If someone stationary on Earth watches a vehicle leaving Earth very fast he sees that time is dilating for that vehicle. Any clocks he sees slow down. But since motion is relative the traveler sees the Earth race away from him at a high speed and the same thing happens. He sees the Earth clock slow down. This is a problem. Who is right? Saying both are is not good enough.
You have overlooked the relatively of simultaneity.
Say that observer A is located on earth, B on the ship, and both agree that the ship leaves earth at 12:00 noon. One hour later A looks at their clock and sees that it reads 1:00 PM, as we expect. A uses the Lorentz transformation to calculate what B's clock reads AT THE SAME TIME that their clock reads 1:00, or equivalently they are watching B's clock through a telescope and by allowing for light travel time they can see what B's clock read when light left B AT THE SAME TIME that A's clock reads 1:00 PM. Either way, they find that B's clock reads 12:30 AT THE SAME TIME that A's clocks reads 1:00. In other words, the events "A's clock reads 1:00" and "B's clock reads 12:30" are simultaneous when we use the frame in which A is at rest.
Clearly B's clock is running slow, by a factor of two.
But this is where the relativity of simultaneity comes in. Using the frame in which B is at rest, these two events do not happen at the same time. Instead, the event "A's clock reads 12:15" is simultaneous with the event "B's clock reads 12:30" so just as clearly A's clock is running slow by a factor of two.
And that’s how they’re both right.
As an aside, this setup is different from the twin paradox because the two clocks are not at the same place when we read them. Confusingly, people often use the term “time dilation” for both this case and the twin paradox even though they are completely different things.