have any of you guys read those self-help books that try to improve your self-esteem? are they helpful? Or would it be better if I just see a counselor? I've seen counselors before when I had depression, but they didn't help much. I got out of depression basically once I found my purpose in life once high school ended, which is to pursue physics. I'm asking because right now I think I'm too shy and passive of a person. I guess for the math and physics majors, its fairly common for one to be shy? Some of the great physicists and mathematicians were successful despite having severe psychological problems, but it was because of their intense passion and genius, which I lack. But how big of a problem will this be? I'm currently spending my last semester at a community college and will be transferring, so I'll have to meet new fellow physics majors and professors. If I stay too shy I won't be able to make many friends, and I'll hesitate to get letters of recommendation and ask for research opportunities, right? What about all the difficult people I may have to deal with in the future?