gsingh2011 said:
why does gravity not fit with quantum mechanics? Is it because the concepts of time and distance are strange when discussing electrons and other subatomic particles? Thanks.
The non-renormalizability is I think more the description of "how" it does not fit. The question still remains why. (and is renormalization even a sound game?)
The root cause of why, is I think also debatable. Any idea of the root cause of why, probably implies a specific research program.
One the more basic observations is that GR and classical physics in general, are resting on a different foundation. Although SR and GR, did away with some of the absolute notions of space and time, it still is a "classical model" of relativity.
QM OTOH is a measurement theory, but it's not an intrinsic measurement theory, it's rather based on "objective statistics" that is well suited for particle physics experiments, where concepts such as preparations and repeating experiments can be made sense out of.
The two conceptuals worlds just don't mix unambigously. The usual quantization procedure, usually starts from a classical model and then applies some canonical quantization scheme is itself a "semiclassical" construct, that even in the current physics is not conceptually coherent.
Most approaches try to "tweak" the current standard methods, in different directions, say tweaking the classical models, tweaking hamiltonians etc. But not that many try to tweak the frameworks.
I think the "success" of SM + QM in QFT and the standard model does not prove at some deep conceptual level that the framework is correct. It is I think more likely just an effective success. In this sense I think thta the success of SR + QM is somewhat of a "coincidence" that has given us false confidence. The conceptual issues are there also in SR + QM, it's just that we are maybe lucky to pull a somewhat working effective theory out of the mess after renormalization.
/Fredrik