Andrew Mason said:
I disagree. There is no principle that limits the speed at which atoms can interact except the limit on the speed of light. The forces within a rigid body are electrical and nuclear (gravity being negligible). To be perfectly rigid a force applied to one part of the body must be transmitted instantaneously. But we know that the force applied to an outer atom is transmitted to the adjacent atom by electrical means. The force applied by an electron in that atom to the protons and neutrons in the nucleus is transmitted electrically and by the strong nuclear force.
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MikeyW and Q-reeus's discussion is informative of the problem. To summarize:
Bringing up electromagnetism implies that the
signal transmitted by hitting a rod with a hammer is electromagnetic in nature and therefore should propagate at a high fraction of C, just as electricity does. But the fact that the
force between the atoms arises due to electromagnetism does not imply that the
signal of smacking one into the next (and the next...) is also electromagnetic. It isn't: it is purely mechanical, modeled highly accurately as a collectin of little masses connected by springs.
Now, as said, the speed of propagation is determined by density and elasticity. So getting the speed of sound to approach the speed of light would require either an extremely low density or extremely high modulus of elasticity. And this is where the issue becomes one of chemistry and materials science. These are the sciences that discuss the strength of molecular bonds. I'm just not sure it is all that useful to ask 'why aren't chemcial bonds orders of magnitude stronger?' or 'why aren't atoms orders of magnitude lighter'? Reality is they aren't and that's why the speed of sound is so low.
And a point of order: the OP didn't actually ask about the speed of sound, only about rigid bodies. So only half of the issue is on the table, slightly differently put: 'Why aren't chemical bonds infinitely strong?'
Where to look for an answer depends on the depth desired. Just saying that material strength and rigidity is determined by the strength of the chemical bonds holding it together might be enough for the OP. To go beyond the mechanics of materials/materials science explanation would probably involve chemistry and even QM. But ultimately, we'll get to a place where we'd have to say that molecular bonds or the electromagnetic force that causes them just are what they are.