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Dembadon
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A girl has been flirting with me to the point that I think it might be time for a confrontation. Since I've never been one to pickup on the subtleties of flirting (much to the dismay of my wife ), I decided to tell her about some of the things this girl does that I'm assuming aren't normal forms of interaction for two people who don't really know each other. After hearing the list, my wife believes she is flirting and showing interest, but that it is sometimes hard to be sure. She said some people are just overly friendly and touchy-feely.
This girl knows I'm married (I talk about my wife a lot in conversations and am always wearing my ring), but I find it odd that she quickly tries to change the subject whenever I mention our relationship. She does not show interest in getting to know what kind of person my wife is, which was the first thing that made me a bit wary. I also find it to be rude that she does not show any interest in getting to know the most important person in my life.
I'm not sure how to move forward. I don't want to confront someone who's just overly outgoing and nice, but I also do not want to give the impression that if she's flirting, I find it acceptable.
I really suck at this; is there any sure-fire way to know one way or the other? I have no problems with a confrontation, but only if the evidence warrants one. If I were to talk to her about it, this is exactly what I'd say, "I don't like how you ignore my wife in our conversations." Is this too presumptuous or overly rude? I used to not care about these things, but not caring about my delivery has gotten me into unnecessary situations before, so I'm asking about how to be more tactful.
This girl knows I'm married (I talk about my wife a lot in conversations and am always wearing my ring), but I find it odd that she quickly tries to change the subject whenever I mention our relationship. She does not show interest in getting to know what kind of person my wife is, which was the first thing that made me a bit wary. I also find it to be rude that she does not show any interest in getting to know the most important person in my life.
I'm not sure how to move forward. I don't want to confront someone who's just overly outgoing and nice, but I also do not want to give the impression that if she's flirting, I find it acceptable.
I really suck at this; is there any sure-fire way to know one way or the other? I have no problems with a confrontation, but only if the evidence warrants one. If I were to talk to her about it, this is exactly what I'd say, "I don't like how you ignore my wife in our conversations." Is this too presumptuous or overly rude? I used to not care about these things, but not caring about my delivery has gotten me into unnecessary situations before, so I'm asking about how to be more tactful.
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