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Char. Limit said:Difference: You can choose to be a Tea Partier. You can't choose to be gay.
But ironically, in both cases, until you make it public - nobody picks on you for that reason?
Char. Limit said:Difference: You can choose to be a Tea Partier. You can't choose to be gay.
WhoWee said:But ironically, in both cases, until you make it public - nobody picks on you for that reason?
fluxions said:Some kids are bullied just for being perceived as gay.
WhoWee said:Perhaps some voters were bullied for showing up at town hall meetings - they didn't know they were Tea Party members until they were labeled as such?
fluxions said:Perhaps. I haven't looked into the matter.
In any case, it is evident that it is possible to be bullied for being a member of a group without publicly self-identifying as a member of that group. This is in contrast to your claim in post #36 wherein you essentially (at least this is how I interpreted it) said that publicly self-identifying as a member of a group is a precondition to being bullied for being a member of that group.
WhoWee said:I don't have an axe to grind - I'm making an observation there are similarities to the way people in these groups are bullied. Obviously, the torment increases when someone is labeled as a member of the group.
It's also my observation (I have 4 kids) that people (especially kids) can be quite mean. Once someone is labeled as fat, short, ugly, dumb, smelly, slow, skinny, tall, clean, smart, neat, sloppy, (basically anything) then they are fair game for the bully process. Sometimes, it is with nervous laughter that some of the "bullies" participate - they're just glad it's not them being chastied.
Unfortunately, I think it's basic human behavior to single out someone and attack them as a group? Sometimes people who have been subject to such attacks are eager to join the group against other people (possibly for another reason).
WhoWee said:"Sometimes people who have been subject to such attacks are eager to join the group against other people (possibly for another reason).
fluxions said:Has a member of the Tea Party ever been bullied so relentlessly that their only (perceived) recourse was to commit suicide?
And yes, kids can be quite cruel; that is clearly not unique to kids though.
I think this may be a perversion of the 'tit-for-tat' morality that a lot of people preach and sometimes practice. Specifically, "I've been titted, and now it's my turn to tat."
WhoWee said:Have any gays been taunted in a public forum by members of the press and elected politicians?
WhoWee said:The attack on the Tea Party members actually included the gay male slang term "tea bagging" and was attributed to Anderson Cooper.
To tea bag is a slang term for the act of a man placing his scrotum in the mouth of a sexual partner.
WhoWee said:Perhaps some voters were bullied for showing up at town hall meetings - they didn't know they were Tea Party members until they were labeled as such?
Jack21222 said:By bullied, do you mean spit on and had gum placed in their hair? Do you mean pushed down into a mud puddle? Or do you mean laughed at?
Furthermore, are you talking about 12 year old kids, or are you talking about full-grown adults?
I'm not allowed to suggest that you're just trolling because I've got enough infractions as it is, but you're derailing the thread with completely unrelated banter. You're equating a political movement by adults being laughed at for their beliefs to children being physically attacked for who they are.
On what planet are those two even remotely similar?
WhoWee said:For some reason people think it's ok to call concerned voters "tea baggers"?
No, that is not the same.WhoWee said:A bully is a bully - whether it's a white 12 year old boy picking on a defenseless classmate or a powerful political figure (or newsperson) picking on a taxpayer.
jarednjames said:Read my last post please. It is not a gay insult. It is a reference to a sex act, and not in any way offensive. I see no reason why a person would consider it offensive, unless they hold the same mis-understanding as yourself (and those shouting it). In which case, it still isn't offensive, they just don't understand it. They are offended by their own interpretation of the phrase, not it's actual meaning. People just make far more of it than is deserved and amplify this mis-understanding.
DaveC426913 said:A child or a gay person does not want anything except to be left alone - and are bullied anyway.
WhoWee said:Are you serious - using a reference to a sex act (to label a member of a group) is not offensive?
WhoWee said:Do you have a link to support this assertion?
WhoWee said:Do you have a link to support this assertion?
jarednjames said:What assertation? Are you trying to say that gay people and children want to be picked on and bullied? That they want attention for what they are?
Some facts do not require a citation, like we have one sun in or solar system, planets orbit around this sun, the Earth has large amounts of water, people don't like to be bullied.WhoWee said:Do you have a link to support this assertion?
http://hubpages.com/hub/Emotional-Bullying-in-ChildrenRecognizing Victims
Those who are bullied usually hide this from their parents and they usually prefer to deal with the problem alone.
I was going to try and list some of the numerous taunts, like Dick Armey referring to Barney Frank as "Barney Fag", but for want of time, and to keep this closer to the topic, I'll defer to Cindy McCain:WhoWee said:Have any gays been taunted in a public forum by members of the press and elected politicians?
Cindy McCain said:"Our political and religious leaders tell LGBT youth that they have no future ... They can't serve our country openly ... Our government treats the LGBT community like second-class citizens, why shouldn't they [the bullies]?"
Assuming this is true, could one of the reasons be that society, in general, has much more sympathy for (and therefore much lower tolerance for violence against) people with disabilities than it does for gays? Are there any significantly influential groups, for instance, that promote the denigration of disabled people?FlexGunship said:So! To conclude! I would actually rephrase the question thusly: "why are we concentrating on gay specific bullying instead of bullying against children with disabilities?"
I don't think there is a 3rd class. Generally speaking bullying will be based on the difference between two parties. And for sure, you will be in the other party which is a group by itself.FlexGunship said:And the last type, could be third-class. These are the generic acts of bullying that are just generally prevalent in immature populations.
FlexGunship said:So! To conclude! I would actually rephrase the question thusly: "why are we concentrating on gay specific bullying instead of bullying against children with disabilities?"
Jack21222 said:I have NEVER seen anybody bullied because of a disability. It just doesn't happen as often. Furthermore, the Trevor Project is an LGBT organization, it would be weird for them to focus on bullying against disabled kids.
I'm still operating under the assumption that the Trevor Project "It Gets Better" campaign is what the OP was referring to. That's the only recent focus on LGBT bullying I've seen or heard of.
Jack21222 said:I have NEVER seen anybody bullied because of a disability. It just doesn't happen as often. Furthermore, the Trevor Project is an LGBT organization, it would be weird for them to focus on bullying against disabled kids.
jarednjames said:I agree with flex, people are bullied because of disability quite a lot.
If you spend any time with a disabled person, you'll realize how common it can be.
(bold mine)WhoWee said:I don't have an axe to grind - I'm making an observation there are similarities to the way people in these groups are bullied. Obviously, the torment increases when someone is labeled as a member of the group.
It's also my observation (I have 4 kids) that people (especially kids) can be quite mean. Once someone is labeled as fat, short, ugly, dumb, smelly, slow, skinny, tall, clean, smart, neat, sloppy, (basically anything) then they are fair game for the bully process. Sometimes, it is with nervous laughter that some of the "bullies" participate - they're just glad it's not them being chastied.
Unfortunately, I think it's basic human behavior to single out someone and attack them as a group? Sometimes people who have been subject to such attacks are eager to join the group against other people (possibly for another reason).
Agreed. My kids were raised to never say mean things to other children, and my mother taught me not to. And it wasn't limited to not saying it, they were taught that people that were handicapped, or were a minority, were the same as anyone else. Children also learn by example, they never heard me making derogatory remarks about people that were different.Newai said:(bold mine)
Especially kids. I hear that a lot. It doesn't make any sense.
Newai said:Evo, can I ask for clarification? I reread my post and I think it could be equivocal. I meant to say that a lot of people point at kids for being especially mean, when actually I don't believe that can be quantified.