kaotak said:
It makes more sense to me intuitively that the force of friction between two surfaces is proportional to the force that pushes or pulls two surfaces together.
I'm fully aware that weight is not the force we should consider regarding friction in all cases. I mentioned the above for cases in general, whereas I said it should be proportional to mg in my example. Sorry that I was unclear. I did not claim that the force of friction = mu*mg in all cases.
The purpose of this question was to better understand the theory behind friction. It seems like a dumb question at first, but I think it reveals a lot about the theory behind friction. In the classical sense, friction is an empirical force, so there's not a lot of theory behind it, but I wanted to understand the theory that is there. (I imagine friction has better foundations in QM.)
I'm simply noting that it would be more intuitive for the frictional force to be proportional to the net force that is pushing one surface TOWARD the other in the direction of the normal of the other surface. TOWARD is the key word. The normal force between two surfaces pushes each surface in the direction AWAY from each other, even if they don't move away from each other (forces are balanced).
However,
I've answered my own question, viz. why friction is theoretically proportional to the normal force, by piecing together explanations from Ohanian's textbook (which is really good, btw). Here's my resolution:
First I'll establish that the force of friction technically DOES depend on contact area. It's true that friction does not depend on the macroscopic contact area, but it does depend on the microscopic contact area. This is because the frictional force is caused by bonds of atoms between two surfaces, and the more microscopic contact area (actual contact area), the more bonds. The bonds are usually created between two peaks in the surfaces that "touch" each other.
The role of the normal force in friction is to deform these peaks such that it creates more contact area. With a larger macroscopic area, you have more peaks but less force per peak. With a smaller macroscopic area, you have less peaks but more force per peak. Thus the sum of the deformations, which amount to the contact area, is the same in both cases.
So yeah, the answer to my question, as stated above, is that the role of the normal force in friction is to deform the peaks between surfaces in which bonds can form between atoms, thus creating a larger contact area and more friction. Hence friction being proportional to N.