I think it would be easier to appeal to the focus/directix definition of a parabola for problem 1 (the definition Newton quoted).
The square distance from the point (x, y) to the focus is:
d
2 = (x - 1)
2 + (y - 2)
2
To find the square distance from the directix to (x, y) we look up the point to line distance formula in the book! I can't find it in my CRC handbook so I'll compute it with cross products:
Choose the point A = (0, -1) which lies on the directix.
The unit vector v = (1/sqrt(2), -1/sqrt(2)) points along the directix.
The distance from P = (x, y) to the directix is then:
d = |(P - A) * v| = |(x, y + 1) * (1, -1) / sqrt(2)|
= |x * (-1) - (y + 1) * 1| / sqrt(2)
squaring gives: (I can flip the sign because it's inside ||)
d
2 = (x + y + 1)
2 / 2
And then the equation of the parabola is:
(x - 1)
2 + (y - 2)
2 = (x + y + 1)
2 / 2
Simplifying yields:
x
2 - 2xy + y
2 - 6x - 10y + 9 = 0
Halls approach will work too, though there is at least 1 typo in his post.

I guess it's a matter of taste which approach you use, so I suggest you do it both ways to be familiar with them both!
Incidentally, the above can be done entirely as vector equations:
Let F be the focus
Let A be any point on the directix
Let v be a unit vector that points along the directix
Let P be (x, y)
. means dot product
* means cross product
Then
(P - F).(P - F) = |(P - A) * v|
2
I just recalled another formula for distance from a point to a line that's a little simpler to manipulate, allowing us to replace the absoulte value of a cross product with dot products. It gives:
(P - F).(P - F) = (P - A).(P - A) - ((P - A).v)
2
For #2 and #3, you can use geometric arguments to locate the missing piece of information... think about the relationship between the focus, vertex, directerix, and the line through the focus and vertex.