"If gravity is not a force, then why try to unite it with the other 3?"
[short answer: because we think they ARE related...see below]
I never completely understood why physicists cared about forces being unified. It's a beautiful thing that the Weinberg-Salaam-Glashow model of weak interactions shows them to be an aspect of the same force that gives rise to electromagnetic interactions, but I don't see why we need all forces to be unified in this sense. Is that just aesthetic preference, or is there some technical reason?
It seems the motivation goes back to the earliest moments of the universe...no space, no time, no particles, just, apparently, very high energy??...and a very high and unstable vacuum expectation energy...and then 'poof' spontaneous symmetry breaking and out popped particles, forces, different forms of energy...so the supposition they were all 'unified'...all one entity when all was perfectly symmetric...leads us to think there should be a unification theory, a 'theory of everything'
Here are a few perspectives from my notes: [with source where I have them]
Wikipedia LQC: [Loop Quantum Cosmology]
The distinguishing feature of LQC is the prominent role played by the quantum geometry effects of LQG. In particular, quantum geometry creates a brand new repulsive force which is totally negligible at low space-time curvature but rises very rapidly in the Planck regime, overwhelming the classical gravitational attraction and thereby resolving singularities of general relativity. Once singularities are resolved, the conceptual paradigm of cosmology changes and one has to revisit many of the standard issues —e.g., the ‘horizon problem’— from a new perspective... In LQC the big bang is replaced by a quantum bounce...
[The prior quote links gravity to cosmology and may reveal a new force.]
An Extension of the Quantum Theory of Cosmological Perturbations to the Planck Era
Ivan Agullo, Abhay Ashtekar, William Nelson
(Submitted on 6 Nov 2012)
http://arxiv.org/abs/1211.1354
...the FLRW space-times of interest are invariably incomplete in the past
due to the big bang singularity where matter fields and space-time curvature diverge...
It is widely believed that general relativity is simply not applicable once curvature reaches the Planck scale... to encompass the Planck regime, one needs a quantum gravity extension of the standard cosmological perturbation theory.
[Neither GR nor QM can describe what appear in current models as 'singularities]
Quantum Nature of the Big Bang: Improved dynamics
Abhay Ashtekar,Tomasz Pawlowski,and Parampreet Singh
http://arxiv.org/pdf/gr-qc/0607039v2.pdf
...The scalar field continues to serve as ‘emergent time’, the big bang is again replaced by a quantum bounce, and quantum evolution remains deterministic across the deep Planck regime.
[The above quote hints at the possibility of further understanding time.]
Marcus:
...In a BH collapse, there is some MATTER that collapses, but the surrounding space does not. In a LQC cosmological collapse the whole of space collapses and rebounds...
[So what are the similarities and differences between these? Still a mystery.]
from a Roger Penrose lecture..in response to an audience question:
... A true theory of quantum gravity should replace our present concept of spacetime at a singularity. It should give a clear-cut way of talking about what we call a singularity in classical theory. It shouldn't be simply a nonsingular spacetime, but something drastically different...
Quote by Haelfix
No one has solved the reason for the low entropy initial conditions of cosmology. The problem exists for almost every single proposal. Loop or other. Taken at face value, it rules out almost all of cosmology.
And none of this even mentions one of the most profound questions affecting the Standard Model of particle physics: How are all the masses and strength of the forces
determined in our universe? Where do particles come from?? Does the graviton exist? So far, the Standard Model is a hodge podge of different theories coupled with experimental observations, like the mass of the electron. Nobody knows how to calculate ANY particle mass from fundamental principles.
PS: Particles have been associated with inflationary cosmology {LQC} and the expansion of space-time associated with horizons...But there is much to learn...
for those interested, try reading about Unruh effect, Hawking radiation, and black hole horizons...