kira506 said:
so why are they not at equilinrium
You still haven't said what you mean by "not at equilibrium." Like HallsofIvy, I don't understand what you're really asking about.
Right now, my coffee cup is resting on the table next to my elbow. The table exerts an upwards force on the coffee cup. The coffee cup exerts a downwards force on the table. These two forces are equal in magnitude and opposite in direction, according to Newton's Third Law. The coffee cup is
also in equilibrium, because it's stationary (not accelerating).
Note however, that the reason why the coffee cup is in equilibrium is
not because the two forces named above add up to zero, because those two forces act on different objects. (Maybe this is what is confusing you?)
The coffee cup is in equilibrium because the forces that act
on it add up to zero. One force is the upwards force exerted by the table. The other force is the downwards gravitational force exerted by the earth. These two forces add up to zero, therefore the coffee cup is in equlibrium.