Are you single, married, or do you have a gf/bf?

[DaveC426913]

Single. I'm not ugly or anything but girls just don't look at me

The mate market is like the job market; if you're expecting to just trip and land on one you'll be waiting a long time. You've got make opportunities. Market yourself strongly, so that when an opportunity does open up, you're in the right place at the right time.

 

[Jimmy Snyder]

The mate market is like the job market; if you're expecting to just trip and land on one you'll be waiting a long time. You've got make opportunities. Market yourself strongly, so that when an opportunity does open up, you're in the right place at the right time.

Good advice about the meet market. That's what my wife did, and it worked like a charm.

 

[Laura1013]

The mate market is like the job market; if you're expecting to just trip and land on one you'll be waiting a long time. You've got make opportunities. Market yourself strongly, so that when an opportunity does open up, you're in the right place at the right time.

Interesting. Is that the norm? I stumbled upon love when I wasn't looking for it at all.

 

[lisab]

Interesting. Is that the norm? I stumbled upon love when I wasn't looking for it at all.

After many years of just keeping my focus on school and work, work and school - all work and no play - I said to myself, I think I'll start dating again. I met my future husband almost immediately after that. Just dumb luck, I guess.

 

[Poop-Loops]

Interesting. Is that the norm? I stumbled upon love when I wasn't looking for it at all.

Well I can attest that "don't look for it, it will just happen" just plain doesn't work.

 

[Schrodinger's Dog]

Well I can attest that "don't look for it, it will just happen" just plain doesn't work.

No, you're right. I'd like to say like anything else if you don't put the effort in it isn't going to be easy. Sure star crossed lovers meet eyes across a crowded room by fate, leading to true love. But this isn't Shakespeare. This is real life.

If you met by happen stance, then good for you but I think it's like anything else: putting yourself in the right place at the right time counts for a lot too.

 

[mbrmbrg]

I'm sure you could train a woman to catch Frisbees. I mean, I've seen a few who were trained to actually speak in English. That couldn't have been easy. So catching frisbees shouldn't be too hard. Plus, they don't shed as much hair as a dog.

Aherm. Someone has clearly never worn a long, staticy (staticky? static-y?) skirt to an all-girls/women school. They don't shed as much hair my foot!

 

[Poop-Loops]

I guess it would depend on the breed you buy.

 

[DaveC426913]

Interesting. Is that the norm? I stumbled upon love when I wasn't looking for it at all.

Well, you're a woman, so some man managed to get in front of your face in the right place at the right time. How does it feel to be the target audience?

 

[Moonbear]

When is anyone really NOT looking other than when they've already found someone? Sure, there are times one tries harder to meet more people, but has anyone ever asked someone else out and gotten the answer, "Oh, sorry, thanks but no thanks, I'm happily single and prefer staying home alone."

Of course, the whole "I found love when I wasn't expecting it" part is pretty much a given, isn't it? Again, how often does someone head out at night saying, "I'm going to find my true love tonight" and have it happen? I'm pretty sure the usual goal is just to meet some new people and see if anything happens while bracing oneself for the more likely scenario that the man/woman of your dreams decided to stay home and watch DVDs that night, or was in the bar next door to the one you were frequenting.

 

[Moonbear]

Aherm. Someone has clearly never worn a long, staticy (staticky? static-y?) skirt to an all-girls/women school. They don't shed as much hair my foot!

Based on how often I clean the shower drain in spring and fall and the pretty balanced ratio of hair to fur in the vacuum cleaner, I do wonder whether it's me or the cat that sheds most during shedding season. But, hey, that's how we mark our territory! While a guy might pick up a few stray hairs on the cuffs of his pants or the outside of his jacket, there better not be any that don't match your own on the inside of his pants.

 

[iBankingFTW]

I'm 16 and don't have a GF but I'm not looking for one at all. I'm not looking for any type of relationship right now. I have way too many more important priorities. Probably once I land into an internship at a good firm that I'll be working for in my senior year of college, I'll start looking, lol.

 

[Poop-Loops]

When is anyone really NOT looking other than when they've already found someone? Sure, there are times one tries harder to meet more people, but has anyone ever asked someone else out and gotten the answer, "Oh, sorry, thanks but no thanks, I'm happily single and prefer staying home alone."

Last year when my mom hurt her back, I was the one who took her to the physical therapist regularly.

One of the assistants there apparently had the hots for me (don't ask me why, I still can't figure it out). I kind of noticed it (I tend to be completely oblivious to my surroundings), but then when my dad took my mom one day, she said the girl asked for me. My response? Cringe. The girl was cute, and off the bat there was nothing wrong with her. But I just didn't want to go out with her, or really anybody. Don't know why.

 

[jtbell]

Married 20 years this coming June. Since we're both academics, we often happen to be on the road at anniversary time. Once it was in Leningrad, before it got renamed back to St. Petersburg. Once it was in Wormleysburg, Pennsylvania. This year it may be somewhere in Colorado, on our way home from Arizona.

Probably our "worst" anniversary was our tenth, the day after I got hit by a pickup truck while bicycling and broke my collarbone, pelvis and ankle.

 

[montoyas7940]

Married 14 years this fall. One wife, two daughters and one very small female chihuahua.
I am so outnumbered.

 

[Danger]

Well I can attest that "don't look for it, it will just happen" just plain doesn't work.

Ah, contraire. While I was looking for something totally unlike W, W was sneaking up on me. When she pounced, I wanted nothing to do with her. She stalked me for months, ground me into submission, and I've been happy ever since. Go figure...

 

[Poop-Loops]

Ah, contraire. While I was looking for something totally unlike W, W was sneaking up on me. When she pounced, I wanted nothing to do with her. She stalked me for months, ground me into submission, and I've been happy ever since. Go figure...

You remind me of male anime/video game characters. You ever watch anime? The stereotypical stoic male hero wants nothing to do with the perfect girl (hot, smart, funny, etc.) who is drooling over him and nagging him, until he like, saves the world or something equally epic and predictably falls in love with her and they live happily ever after.

So, did you save the world or do something equally epic? I don't think you can just skip a step like that.

 

[Danger]

So, did you save the world or do something equally epic?

Nothing like it, and there was no 'hot, smart, funny' aspect; she was almost diametrically opposed to what I wanted. She was 55 at the time, with 4 kids and a dozen grandbrats, has absolutely no interest in anything even vaguely scientific, not highly literate (she frequently asks me how to spell one-syllable words), and to top it all off, she's a Christian (but not the rabid sort). On the other hand, her 'people skills' are phenomenal. She started as a waitress when she was 16 (and as a single mother), then finished high-school and got married, then was an addictions counsellor for 10 years (maybe that's what drew her to me). Our differences compliment one another, so we get along very well. I think of it as the 'Jack Spratt Syndrome'.

 

[tgt]

Married 20 years this coming June. Since we're both academics, we often happen to be on the road at anniversary time. Once it was in Leningrad, before it got renamed back to St. Petersburg. Once it was in Wormleysburg, Pennsylvania. This year it may be somewhere in Colorado, on our way home from Arizona.

Probably our "worst" anniversary was our tenth, the day after I got hit by a pickup truck while bicycling and broke my collarbone, pelvis and ankle.

Just out of interest, academics in same or different field?

 

[LURCH]

Married on the 29th of Feb (one month ago). So far, SOOOoooo GOOOoood!

 

[Astronuc]

Married on the 29th of Feb (one month ago). So far, SOOOoooo GOOOoood!

Lucky you. One anniversary every 4 years.

Congrats, Lurch!

 

[montoyas7940]

Married on the 29th of Feb (one month ago). So far, SOOOoooo GOOOoood!

Oh yeah, makes it easy to remember and think of the money you will save.

 

[George Jones]

Probably our "worst" anniversary was our tenth, the day after I got hit by a pickup truck while bicycling and broke my collarbone, pelvis and ankle.

Ouch.

Our "worst" anniversary story is not nearly so bad - looking back, it's quite humorous.

On our third anniversary we were in the process of moving from Brandon, Manitoba to Saint John, New Brunswick. The day of our anniversary, the movers came several hours later than scheduled to our Brandon apartment to pick up our stuff. We were flying out of Winnipeg, so we were late starting the two-hour drive from Brandon to Winnipeg.

Our plans were to go an Olive Garden restaurant (which my wife loves) in Winnipeg for supper, stay overnight with friends, and then fly out the next morning. Because of the delay in our plans, the restaurant was closed when we got to Winnipeg.

We were both unfamiliar with Winnipeg, and the only eating joint we could find nearby was a Wendy's. When we went inside, we were told that they were soon closing, and we had to order take-out.

Our anniversary meal consisted of eating burgers and fries from a paper bag while sitting in a car in a parking lot!

 

[jtbell]

Just out of interest, academics in same or different field?

Different. Her field is German. Fortunately, we've never had to worry about the "two-body problem" because we met after I came here, and she had already been here a while.

When we decided to get married, we got a dramatic illustration of one aspect of living in a small-town, small-college environment. We figured we might as well tell our Dean first. His secretary apparently overheard it and got on the phone immediately (this was in the days before e-mail). By the time we had walked back to the science building, on the other side of campus, my colleagues were waiting to congratulate us!

 

[Moonbear]

Ah, contraire. While I was looking for something totally unlike W, W was sneaking up on me. When she pounced, I wanted nothing to do with her. She stalked me for months, ground me into submission, and I've been happy ever since. Go figure...

Well, at least HALF the people have to go look for it or it won't happen. Figures, all the hard work is left up to the women as usual.

 

[Kurdt]

Well, at least HALF the people have to go look for it or it won't happen. Figures, all the hard work is left up to the women as usual.

Science geeks aren't confident enough to ask themselves. They're to busy hiding in their drinks in the corner of bars (if they get that far).

 

[tgt]

Different. Her field is German. Fortunately, we've never had to worry about the "two-body problem" because we met after I came here, and she had already been here a while.

When we decided to get married, we got a dramatic illustration of one aspect of living in a small-town, small-college environment. We figured we might as well tell our Dean first. His secretary apparently overheard it and got on the phone immediately (this was in the days before e-mail). By the time we had walked back to the science building, on the other side of campus, my colleagues were waiting to congratulate us!

I assume you are in physics? Does that work well? Two people with entirely different 'brain structures'? Maybe a bit too different for each other? I always thought that people like someone who is similar to them.

 

[Danger]

Science geeks aren't confident enough to ask themselves. They're to busy hiding in their drinks in the corner of bars (if they get that far).

Luckily, I'm not a science geek. While trying to avoid W, I was actively pursuing 18-25 year-old women in a couple of different bars. (Even managed to catch a couple. )

 

[DaveC426913]

Luckily, I'm not a science geek. While trying to avoid W, I was actively pursuing 18-25 year-old women in a couple of different bars. (Even managed to catch a couple. )

Wait, you were pursuing 18-25yo's and you were nabbed by a 55yo?

Either you're a dirty old man or your wife's the queen of cougars...

 

[Astronuc]

I assume you are in physics? Does that work well? Two people with entirely different 'brain structures'? Maybe a bit too different for each other? I always thought that people like someone who is similar to them.

Males and females have different brain structures.