I know that this complicates things, but I wanted to take this in "baby steps" so that I could follow. I know that you are completely on the same page, so I feel I asked my question correctly. I am so close to the answer I can taste it, right?
Thank you!
Two parts to this, first of all how fast is something dropped from 9ft going when it hits the ground
The equation for this is: final speed ^2 = initial speed ^2 + 2 g distance
So in this case 7.3 m/s - Notice how this doesn't use the 60kg - all objects fall at the same speed, assuming no air resistance, if the object you are dropping is a feather it's going to be going slower than an a cannonball.
Now the force when it stops, force = mass * acceleration, and acelaration is speed/time
(in physics acceleration means slowing down as well as speeding up)
So if you think it takes 0.1 second to stop (imagine it had fallen into soft foam) then the force is
F = 60kg * 7.3/0.1 = 4380N
But imagine it fell onto concrete and took 1/1000 of a second to stop (because concrete is much harder)
then the force would be 100x greater.
if you assume it took no time at all to top then the force would be infinite!