To better understand a black hole's event horizon, and what happens at the horizon and the difference between above and below, it is well worth the effort to consider a different example of horizon.
If you are in an accelerating rocket in deep space, far from any gravitation, nevertheless an "apparent horizon" forms behind you. There are some minor technical differences between this "apparent horizon" and the "absolute horizon" of a black hole, but for the purposes of this discussion, the differences are irrelevant.
If the rocket has a constant proper acceleration of
a, then the apparent horizon forms at a distance of
c2/
a behind you (as measured by yourself). Nothing, not even light, can cross the horizon towards you. If you drop an apple out of your rocket, you'll see the (red-shifted) apple slow down as it approaches the horizon and it never crosses it. That's what you see with your eyes and it's also what you calculate in your own coordinate system.
What makes this scenario easier to understand than a black hole is that you can examine what is happening in inertial Minkowski coordinates, or in your own accelerated "Rindler" coordinates. In inertial coordinates the apple reaches the horizon in a finite time and crosses it without incident.
We can ignore two space dimensions and consider inertial (
t,
x) coordinates. These are related to the rocket's Rindler coordinates (
T,
X) by
x = X \cosh \frac{aT}{c}
ct = X \sinh \frac{aT}{c}
(for
X > 0). The rocket is located at a constant
X =
c2/
a in these coordinates, and the horizon is the limit as X \rightarrow 0. In inertial coordinates, the horizon is located at
x =
ct. There is a space-time diagram to illustrate tbis in
post #9 of the "about the Rindler metric" thread[/color].
Post #15[/color] of that same thread shows an extra change of space-coordinate you can introduce
R = \frac{1}{2} \left[1 + \left(\frac{aX}{c^2}\right)^2 \right]
which (in the simplified case where
c = 1 =
a) gives you a metric equation
ds^2 = (2R-1) dT^2 - \frac{dR^2}{2R-1}
somewhat similar to the Schwarzschild metric. The post also shows how you can define a
different coordinate transformation
behind the horizon which gives rise to the
same metric equation as above. And behind the horizon (which is at
R=½),
T measures distorted distance (not imaginary time) and
R measures distorted time (not imaginary distance).
The point of all this is to show that almost all the strange things about horizons are due to the use of accelerating coordinate systems, and in particular using a coordinate system that fails at the horizon itself. In the accelerating rocket example, we can use ordinary inertial coordinates to show there's nothing weird "really" happening at all, only the accelerated coordinates making it
seem weird.
Spend some time working through the maths of the accelerating Rindler rocket and its "Rindler horizon", and you should find a black hole's horizon easier to understand after that.