Daddy-daughter date night?

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Oh, great, someone brought in Pedobear...

Did you ever, as a kid, ask your parents "where do babies come from?" You didn't get a real answer. I wonder why?

Because they(parents) don't want them(children) to know!
I don't understand that. Why hide something like that from a child? It's something that they're eventually going to learn, so why not tell them the truth? Only when you hide it does it become an improper topic. Same deal with showing breasts on TV. Breasts are only taboo because people have MADE them taboo.

I believe the same thing about Santa Clause. Why even lie to a child? Just tell them you bought the gifts and that Santa isn't real. Because it makes it more fun for the child? It's better to lie and give them a little fun, yet make them devastated when they find out it's not true, than to just tell them the truth from the beginning?

Also, I don't get the baby talk crap people do with babies. Just talk to them normally, they don't know you're talking in a cute way, so it's not like they enjoy it more.
 
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I see that I'm not the only one who thinks this way, although I'm not sure if I want my five-year-old to know about sex.
 
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Did you ever, as a kid, ask your parents "where do babies come from?" You didn't get a real answer. I wonder why?

Because they(parents) don't want them(children) to know!
My parents bought us this book:
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The cartoon images of the naked people and sperm are fantastically funny. (If you image-google "where do I come from" you can get to blogs that discuss how this book gave the writer complexes and how the book is more from the man/sperm point of view... with more images from the book, but we always thought it was great.)
 
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Also, I don't get the baby talk crap people do with babies. Just talk to them normally, they don't know you're talking in a cute way, so it's not like they enjoy it more.
As a mom to a now seven-month old, I talk to her both ways... and the baby-talk way DOES get a bigger smile. She knows it's a way of being playful (especially if it's being used in "peekaboo" games, which is useful if I'm disappearing out of sight briefly in the process of doing a household chore).
 
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Oh brother, it's amazing how people can interpret things in a perverted manner.
 
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I wish I had the reference, but apparently it's not so much the baby talk that infants and young children respond to but the sing-song and higher-pitched tone of voice. You can speak perfectly normal words to them, but it's all about the tone that's comforting and appeals to them.

As to five-year-olds "knowing" about sex, they don't, or won't, even if you explained it to them explicitly. Which you don't need to. But there's no need to lie to them about where babies come from either. Point-blank age-appropriate information is good, as best I can tell. When they're young, they don't want an overwhelming amount of in-depth information anyway. Just give them the basics. They're good with that until more information becomes relevant to their world.
 
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You can speak perfectly normal words to them, but it's all about the tone that's comforting and appeals to them.
That's what I call "baby talk." I guess sometimes I also do "mimicking" of her sounds, before saying real things too, just to acknowledge her (she was big into "gee" a few weeks ago, and now she's into "barr, barr, barr" and "ow-boo" with no "gee"s at all). I guess some parents might include some poor grammer and fake words in "baby talk"... but I don't.
 
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As to five-year-olds "knowing" about sex, they don't, or won't, even if you explained it to them explicitly. Which you don't need to. But there's no need to lie to them about where babies come from either. Point-blank age-appropriate information is good, as best I can tell. When they're young, they don't want an overwhelming amount of in-depth information anyway. Just give them the basics. They're good with that until more information becomes relevant to their world.
That reminds me of the old story about the little girl that asked her father where she came from. The father went into a rather detailed talk about the birds and bees. Noticing that his dughter seemed a bit upset he finally stopped and asked her why she asked. She said "my friend Jenny said she was from Milwaukee, so I was wondering where I came from".
 
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Where babies come from:

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