Kip Thorne in his book BLACK HOLES AND TIME WARPS has some fascinating discussion on the density of white dwarf stars beginning on page 140, and continuing thru all of Chapter 4 and beyond.
Sirius B a well know white dwarf has a density of about 4 millions grams per cc, or about 60 tons per cu in based on modern astornomical observations. A formula called the Stoner-Anderson equation of state allows computation of the resistance to collapse (and formation of a black hole) as a function of density. For such astronomical bodies, electron and neutron degeneracy play major roles in resisting collapse, far more than thermal vibrations. His discuss will give you a good feel and some basic mathematics for astronomical bodies.
I do NOT know of any reasonable way to compute the density of an atomic particle, electron or any other, but my gut feel tells me its (a) quantum mechanical and (b) a probability type function. I think post #4 has the right idea...but there is more to why such an upper size limit exists.
Part of the physical measurement problem is that when one tries to confine any particle for measurement, Heinsenberg uncertainty comes into play as does wave-particle duality. This means when you try to hold an electron still and get a "size" measurement, it's wave becomes more and more frantic...you can't confine it to measure it's size...it's analogous to electron degeneracy which is a major factor resisting neutron star collapse into black holes. In an analogous way, when you try to probe an electron with ever larger experimental frequencies, that means additional energy, and to get a more accurate "picture" you end up adding energy to the particle...increasing thermal vibrations and obscuring it...
I did a quick check of Wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Electron
and the description of an electron has a lot of data but I did NOT see size nor density...