My main point in answer to the original question was merely "it is not entirely unreasonable to ascribe a slightly increased mass to an object when it is higher up in a gravitational potential" than you are, with the caveat that you need to be careful how you use that mass. The negative of that would be "it
is entirely unreasonable", even with caveats, which I don't think is a defensible position. I never claimed (and do not think) that it is the
best way to formulate the problem, but even though it's clunky, you can make it work.
PeterDonis said:
Gravitational time dilation is not a "purely quantum" effect.
My claim was "GTD can be viewed as a purely quantum effect", so if you're disputing that then your claim must be "GTD
can not be viewed as a purely quantum effect". But it's just high school algebra to see that the frequency shift predicted by QM is exactly the same (to first order) as the frequency shift predicted by GTD (in the low-speed weak-field "Newtonian" limit). If you assume that those are independent and unrelated effects, then you need to apply
both, which gives the wrong answer by a factor of 2. But if you see them as different ways of describing the
same effect, then you can
either use the time-dependence of the Schrödinger equation,
or you can use the GTD formula; they each give the same (correct) answer. If you do the former, it looks like a purely quantum effect (which oddly does not depend on the magnitude of
h); if you do the latter, it looks like a purely classical effect. Your claim is that only the latter is valid, which leaves you responsible to explain why the former gets the right answer even though you claim it's completely wrong.
PeterDonis said:
Unless you have a theory of quantum gravity lurking somewhere that the rest of us don't know about.
That's not required. All this stuff pops up in published semi-classical unified theories going back 40+ years. They're widely ignored, but as far as I can tell their fundamentals are correct. I don't know whether they would be easier or harder to quantize than GR; no one has tried.
PeterDonis said:
the COW experiment shows that gravitational potential is included in the Schrodinger equation just like any other classical potential.
I completely agree, but treating all classical potentials equally inescapably implies that there is a time dilation associated with every classical potential (not just gravity), which is not something that most people accept. Mainstream physics is self-contradictory on this point, so it can't possibly be 100% right. Experiments to test for the predicted EM time dilation were first proposed in 1979 but have never been performed; I'm trying to get one run at PSI in late 2021 (if COVID permits and I don't get laughed out of the review process). So maybe we'll know for sure in a year or two.
If you want to continue this, we should take it offline. We've already "hijacked" too much and are wandering farther off-topic.