Well in this case I know that electric field around each point charge is calculated as: kQ/(r2) (undefined at the position of point charge) and the force is defined as F=q.E which results in kQq/(r2).
... you skipped over a bit there ... please concentrate: what did you say the electric field at the position of the charge was?
Basically - the field at the charge is undefined, but that does not stop you calculating the force on the charge due to the other charge.
For the force on charge 1 due to charge two you write: ##\vec F = q_1\vec E_2##
Notice what E2 isn't? It is
not the total field from both charges combined. It is the field from the second charge
alone ... as if q1 were not there.
For this problem, the charge does not see its own electric field.
It's the same with the plates - the force on plate 1 due to plate 2 is what you want to calculate.
But in post #1 you observed that the field between the plates is zero! But the field
due to plate 2 between the plates is not zero.
It is the total combined field that is zero.
If the field due to plate 1 is E1 and the field due to plate 2 is E2, then a charge q somewhere other than on one of the plates gets force ##\vec F = q(\vec E_1+\vec E_2)##, this will be zero between the plates... but the same charge
at[*] the position of plate 1 gets force ##\vec F = q\vec E_2## ... see?
There are two basic ways to work out the force by brute, um, force... you can use coulombs law on each charge element, or you can work out how the energy stored in that system changes with the separation of the plates. I suspect this is something you should do ... compare the result with the electric fields for each plate separately.
Involves calculus I'm afraid - but after that you just remember the result.
The shortcut would be to realize that it is the same force as for oppositely charged plates, but with the opposite sign. In fact, we are assuming a uniform charge distribution - that only happens for an insulator.
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[*] ... when q is a part of the plate. All charges in the plate will see the forces due to all the other charges in the plate. But, since this is an electro
static system, the internal forces all cancel out.