I can't argue with physics, but this is just so dang counter-intuitive to me.
"Counter-intuitive" is normal - which is why you need the math.
In relativity you have to get really pedantic about reference frames and observers and who is observing what - especially when you are starting out.
I'll try give you an idea about reference frames.
Stand up and hold a pen out in front of you at arms length.
Look at the pen.
You, the pen, and the chair you were sitting on, are all stationary in the same reference frame.
This will be the rest-frame of the chair.
Now turn on the spot, keep turning, keeping the pen in front of you.
The pen is still stationary in your reference frame, but it is now accelerating towards you in the rest-frame of the chair.
In your reference frame you notice some odd stuff - for instance, the pen keeps trying to pull away from you. Since it is accelerating towards you, you'd think it would push on your hand but it pulls instead. That is because it is stationary with respect to you but would rather not be: you have to hold it there. This is the centrifugal effect and you see it because you are in a non-inertial reference frame. [*]
The equivalence principle is like this - it basically says that when you experience a gravitational field, you are experiencing an effect of being in a non-inertial reference frame. Objects can move about in that reference frame just fine - and be doing something different in another reference frame.
With the pen-experiment, you would intuitively prefer to call the rest-frame of the chair the really "real" frame, and everything else is somehow less real, producing illusions etc. The big difference with Relativity is that there is no preferred reference frame. This is the big counter-intuitive leap you need to make.
I think you should get used to special relativity before tackling general. Have a read through:
http://www.physicsguy.com/ftl/
... should be accessible and clue you in on some of the math.
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[*] there is a limit to this analogy - it is pretty clear that the frame in which you are spinning and the one in which you are still and everything else (except the pen) is spinning about you are not equivalent - after all, you are the one getting dizzy. You can stop now BTW.