Messenger said:
Energy is inversely proportional to the wavelength, which as far as I am aware occupies more than one point in space-time.
The wavelength is not the wave; it's a number we derive from the wave. The wavelength doesn't occupy spacetime; the wave does.
Messenger said:
Phase is more than just picking out where on the waveform you are at, at least for electromagnetic waves.
Huh? That's how phase is defined. See, for example, here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phase_(waves))
Messenger said:
It still takes a finite amount of time for a wavelength to pass a given point.
No, it takes a finite amount of time for a full cycle of the *wave* to pass a given point. See above. Also note that "point" here means a point in space, not spacetime--see below.
Messenger said:
Does 100% of a photon's energy (say a large radio wave in the meters range) pass a point when only half the time for a full wavelength has passed?
The wave is different from the SET; if you are trying to match up the SET of an EM wave with the wave picture of that wave, I think you are just going to get yourself very confused. If you want to look at an expression for the SET of an electromagnetic field, see for example here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Electromagnetic_stress–energy_tensor
Note that this expression is general; it applies to *any* EM field, not just one that happens to be an EM wave.
Also, when you think about the energy of the wave "passing a point", you are thinking about energy moving through space in time; the "point" is a point in space, *not* a point in spacetime. A point in spacetime is something like "here in the center of my lab at 12:00 Noon local time on July 30, 2012". An EM wave does not "move through" that point in spacetime--it simply has a certain set of properties at that point (values for the E and B field, or the EM field tensor if you want to write it in relativistic form, or amplitude and phase of an EM wave if you want to write it in that form).
Messenger said:
I just don't understand how all the energy can be described as one 4-dimensional point.
The SET doesn't actually describe energy, it describes energy *density* (and momentum density, and pressure, and stress--but all of those have units of energy density, if you multiply momentum density by c as you have to in relativity if you're not using "natural" units). Energy *density* can be defined at a point (strictly speaking, by taking the limit of energy/volume as volume goes to zero).
Also, the fact that the SET has some definite value at a particular point in spacetime does not mean that "energy is being described as one 4-dimensional point". Stress-energy is a continuous substance (at least, it is in the classical approximation we use in GR), like a "fluid", as I've said before. The SET simply gives the properties of the fluid at each spacetime point; it does not say that the fluid is entirely "contained" in one spacetime point.