I made a thread a while back about a guy who was being avoidant and I said I was not sure whether he was being avoidant because he wanted nothing do with me or that he was extremely uncomfortable being in social situations like he once confessed the reason he avoided social situations with several months back . Well we finally got together again after 4 months of not speaking to each other. I can accurately say that we had a grand old time with each other and our time together spent together after those several months of not contacting each other was one of the best times I had with anyone as a student at the university that I attend . The only problem is, he is repeating this pattern of not returning my emails and or phone calls that I send him. I totally don't understand this pattern of behavior he is exhibiting. I wanted eventually wanted to take our friendship to the next level, but I am not even sure if he is trustworthy enough to invest a friendship in , let alone a relationship. And I know he isn't using me either for ulterior motives because he fixed my computer for free and pay for the events we went to together even though I offer to pay for the events and pay him for fixing my computer. I also trust him enough to walk into a secluded place in the woods. He did asked me out on a date a few years ago, but I declined the offer. I want to asked why you are avoiding me and tell him that you need to confessed that you don't want a friendship with me because your actions towards me by not returning my emails an telephone calls show it, but I don't want to be or appear desperate to hang onto the only friend I had at my university . I just want a rational explanations for not returning any of my messages, whether that rational explanation works in my favor or not. How do you think I should handle it? I tried to forget about it , but that isn't working.