Jakaha said:
Newtonians would probably argue that the Big Bang gave the ball bearing a huge amount of PE
No, they wouldn't. They would argue that the Big Bang gave the ball bearing a huge amount of KE, since the Big Bang made the universe expand very fast. Once again, it seems to me that you need to improve your understanding of Newtonian physics.
Jakaha said:
I was told that we can consider the apple/ball bearing to be at rest and the Earth to be accelerating towards it.
Locally, yes.
Jakaha said:
In our two-body example, I (P1) am at rest and P2 is the only thing moving in my universe.
If you choose coordinates appropriately, yes. But you can't say that P1 is at rest in any absolute sense; there is no such thing as absolute rest. Rest, like motion, is always relative.
Jakaha said:
No, it works in 4D. Spacetime is 4-dimensional.
Jakaha said:
I don't think anyone is invoking time dilation here
Correct, you don't need to invoke time dilation to explain what's going on in your example.
Jakaha said:
I don't see how P2 moving at a steady speed along the 3D space can be perceived as an increase or decrease in speed
In the 3D space relative to P1, P2 is not moving at a steady speed. It accelerates until it passes P1, then decelerates, comes to a stop, and accelerates back in the other direction, and the cycle starts again.
In 4D spacetime, both P1 and P2 are following geodesics, and those geodesics start out parallel, approach, pass each other, recede, become parallel again, then start approaching again in another cycle.
Jakaha said:
By coordinates, do you mean frame of reference?
The term "frame of reference" is often used when what is really meant is "coordinates", but there are also other meanings of "frame of reference" that are not synonymous with "coordinates". So you need to clarify what you mean by "frame of reference".
Jakaha said:
Are you saying the warping of spacetime (geodesics) are an intrinsic property of an object regardless of any frame of reference?
No, I'm saying the warping of spacetime is an intrinsic property of spacetime, regardless of any frame of reference. Spacetime is the geometric object; geodesics are just "grid lines" on that geometric object.
Jakaha said:
Since KE is a relative value, then relativistic mass is a relative value and the resulting warping of space-time by that object must be a relative effect, no?
Relativistic mass is not what causes spacetime curvature. The stress-energy tensor is. The stress-energy tensor is a frame-independent geometric object, just like spacetime curvature. The Einstein Field Equation relates the two.
Jakaha said:
My question is about the fact that the ball covers a greater and greater distance along the geodesic in a given amount of time
No, it doesn't. "Distance along the geodesic" is measured in spacetime, not space. The thing that measures it is a clock carried along with the ball. That clock "covers distance" along the ball's worldline at one second per second, regardless of how that worldline is situated in spacetime.
Jakaha said:
The curvature will be custom-tailored for every particle that interacts with the gravitational "field",
No. The curvature is caused by the stress-energy tensor, as I said above. The stress-energy tensor is a property of the object that is the source of the field, not the object that is responding to the field. In the example of a ball falling towards the Earth, the SET inside the Earth causes spacetime curvature inside the Earth; that curvature is then propagated out to the vacuum region outside the Earth, where the ball is. The ball just responds to the spacetime curvature in its vicinity; it doesn't produce any itself.
In your P1-P2 example, both P1 and P2 are sources of spacetime curvature, and they both also respond to spacetime curvature. That makes the full analysis a lot more complicated, because there are issues involving "self-interaction" that come into play. But if we assume that P1 and P2 are weak enough sources, we can ignore the self-interaction complications and treat them separately as sources of curvature and then as objects responding to curvature. As sources, they produce a self-consistent solution of the Einstein Field Equation that describes a spacetime geometry; as objects, they move on geodesics within that spacetime geometry.
Jakaha said:
there are absolute constraints on the apple's KE/momentum
Those constraints are not "absolute" constraints on KE and momentum. See below.
Jakaha said:
For e.g. if we place a sheet of wood at ground level with a known strength that will only be punched through with at least a minimum amount of momentum/KE, and the apple punches through it, then every observer must measure the apple (or wood) to have at least that amount of momentum and KE.
Incorrect. An observer at rest relative to the wood must measure the apple to have at least that amount of momentum and KE. But an observer moving along with the apple would measure it to have zero momentum and KE; instead, he would measure the wood to have some positive amount of momentum and KE (but different than the apple's relative to the wood, since the wood presumably has a different rest mass than the apple). So there is no absolute constraint on the apple's momentum and KE.