How to approach a girl at the library

[BobG]

If you really love for her and care for her, then you would want her to be happy no matter what. If she is currently with a guy who can make her the happiest girl in the world, then you should be happy for her.

If you are very mad, then it's not the girl you care for, but yourself. A relationship based on such selfish desires is not a good idea.

This is a girl he hasn't yet gotten up the nerve to talk to. If he's already in love with her, especially to the point that he's hoping she meet the man of her dreams (who obviously isn't him, since she's not met him) then he might have a problem more serious than just lacking the nerve to talk to girls.

Although I do remember how hesitant I was to ask someone I actually liked for a date. It would have bothered me if they thought I was a dork for asking. It was easier to just ask someone I didn't know that happened to be kind of cute.

In other words, expecting a young person to have any sense at all when it comes to these things is sometimes asking a lot.

 

[BreathingGloom]

Just go say "Hi," and ask about what she's working on. If she's attracted to you she'll respond positively, if she's not, she won't.

The majority of communication is nonverbal, so what you say doesn't really matter, it's the intention behind what you're saying. If your intention is that she is cute and you'd like to talk to her and have fun with her, then she'll be able to see that and will respond accordingly.

Don't get mad if she has a boyfriend. If she reacts negatively, that's fine too. There are a lot of cute girls in a lot of libraries. Brush it off, you're a smart fellow who has a lot going for him, there are plenty of cute chicks in your future my friend.

 

[BreathingGloom]

What the heck are you doing looking for chicks at the library? That is NOT where girls go to find guys.

Maybe not, but if a girl is willing to spend her time in a library actually working on school, it's probably a safe bet that she's a cool chick and worth talking to. She has interests, she's capable of working to achieve her dreams, she is somewhat intellectual, and she is attractive. What more can a guy ask for?