I am leaving, thanks for the great experience

[einsteinian77]

you do suck you said your smart, popular, and pretty yet you still go on complaining about **** no one cares about wtf is that *****. There are thousands of kids who can't afford to pay for cancer treatment and who can't afford to pay for food every year yet you still think that you reall do have something worthy of complaining about.

 

[Galatea]

Originally posted by einsteinian77
you do suck you said your smart, popular, and pretty yet you still go on complaining about **** no one cares about wtf is that *****. There are thousands of kids who can't afford to pay for cancer treatment and who can't afford to pay for food every year yet you still think that you reall do have something worthy of complaining about.

She wants attention. That's all.

 

[Gale]

Originally posted by einsteinian77
you do suck you said your smart, popular, and pretty yet you still go on complaining about **** no one cares about wtf is that *****. There are thousands of kids who can't afford to pay for cancer treatment and who can't afford to pay for food every year yet you still think that you reall do have something worthy of complaining about.

yeah... that about sums it up. Like i said... its cause I'm so well off that i suck... and you said it perfectly. I have no right to be unhappy and to complain... so yeah... thanks

And yeah, i guess i like attention... maybe i shouldn't, that's why I'm leaving the boards for a bit.

 

[einsteinian77]

I'm sorry I didn't mean anything towards you I just can't take people cry about things they can change. I really am sorry I just went over the edge a bit I guess I'm a bit crazy.

 

[Mentat]

Originally posted by Monique
.. stumped .. http://www.click-smilies.de/sammlung0903/sprachlos/speechless-smiley-034.gif I have never heard anyone being talked into the clouds like that [PLAIN]http://www.click-smilies.de/sammlung0903/sprachlos/speechless-smiley-035.gif

[PLAIN]http://www.click-smilies.de/sammlung0903/sprachlos/speechless-smiley-035.gif ...cool smilie! I didn't know we could even do that!

 

[Hurkyl]

Like I said, Monique does great stuff.

 

[Monique]

Originally posted by Hurkyl
Like I said, Monique does great stuff.

Ah! Proof! Some more of the stuff I do :

http://www.click-smilies.de/sammlung0903/spezial/Fool/hb.gif http://www.click-smilies.de/schnellauswahl/smilie_flags_kl.gif

 

[Hurkyl]

Flowers!

 

[Sonty]

Originally posted by Gale17
just unsure about what to do about it.

I'm in a kind of different position. Everybody tells me how good I am in whatever I do and how they admire me for this and that. I realize though they have absolutely no idea how I manage to do the things I do. They are either just saying stuff, or simply don't see what is actually happening with me. There are a lot of situations in which I know how I should behave, and when they actually happen I react in a totally different way and it's usually in an at least socially distructive way. For example I noticed I'm fixing everybody's love life around me, but I can't manage my own. I can "feel" the theory but not the experiment.
In my country we have a saying: if two people say you're drunk, go to sleep. I say if you're drunk life is different than everyone else's so enjoy it. it probably will go away with time. and you may feel sorry you didn't ride the wave.

Monique, you can get that self critical if you're a perfectionist. You realize you're just a poor human being, made to be imperfect, but you can't help trying. It's a desease and some of us have it. And it only hits at a certain age. It probably hit me when I was about six playing a card game with my grandfather. I don't know how it's called in english, but it's a game where you have 4 cards on the table and 6 in your hand and in turn you can grab as many cards from the table if you have cards that sum up to the ones you're taking. So it was a math game my grandfather was playing with me to teach me basic maths and I was strugling to get very good at it as to beat him without him letting me win, which he alwais did. And I got so pissed off about it. And started playing against myself, trying to beat myself. And it went on from there.

 

[Monique]

Originally posted by Sonty
Monique, you can get that self critical if you're a perfectionist.

Well, believe me: I am a perfectionist and completely opposite from my sister who doesn't care about things. Being a perfectionist doesn't mean you have to be self critical. I look at a thing and think: "whoa, that's good, but I can improve it and then it would look even better!"

 

[Jeebus]

Originally posted by Monique
Well, believe me: I am a perfectionist and completely opposite from my sister who doesn't care about things. Being a perfectionist doesn't mean you have to be self critical. I look at a thing and think: "whoa, that's good, but I can improve it and then it would look even better!"

Yeah, I agree with Monique. Being self-critical is more focusing on and dwelling on your own shortcomings. While perfectionism is all around "..this isn't good enough yet.." It is often with rigorous rejection of his or her work. The difference is basically that being self-critical is an analyzation of how you can be better and perfectionalism is their work has to be just right by obsession.

 

[jimmy p]

Just to sum up Guns N' Roses style, why let one bad apple spoil the whole damn bunch? So you think you suck at physics? so? a lot of people here do and that's why we (yes, i count as a lot of people...what an ego!) are on here, to learn and I am quite amazed that i do. This place is great because you arent judged and people are willing to answer the most INANE questions lol.

On another note, MONIQUE THAT IS SO COOL!...actually, where's the union jack? that has now delved into the realms of anti-cool cos there is no union jack...which brings me to another point Gale, you can't please everyone, but when it is yourself, you can get a more positive response from people. We wouldn't be trying to convince you to stay if we didnt like you!

it doesn't matter what age you are, I'm a 5 year old child protege with tentacles instead of arms (VERY hard to type) and i have been posing as an 18 year old but no-one is going to think different of me...except about the tentacles.

 

[jimmy p]

personally i give that speech and 8.6

 

[Monique]

Originally posted by jimmy p
On another note, MONIQUE THAT IS SO COOL!...actually, where's the union jack? that has now delved into the realms of anti-cool cos there is no union jack...which brings me to another point Gale, you can't please everyone, but when it is yourself, you can get a more positive response from people. We wouldn't be trying to convince you to stay if we didnt like you!

You were looking for the union jack? http://www.click-smilies.de/sammlung0903/travesmilies/flaggen1/smilie_flagge3.gif

 

[Sonty]

Originally posted by Jeebus
Yeah, I agree with Monique. Being self-critical is more focusing on and dwelling on your own shortcomings. While perfectionism is all around "..this isn't good enough yet.." It is often with rigorous rejection of his or her work. The difference is basically that being self-critical is an analyzation of how you can be better and perfectionalism is their work has to be just right by obsession.

Know thyself. Knowing the world starts with knowing yourself, right? Shouldn't it be the same with perfecting the world? I think an obsession starts when you think maybe the circle is not round enough or something. But how can you not feel bad when you're not satisfied with yourself? If you have any trace of egocentrism in you you will. You can "survive" other things not being "perfect", but yourself?

 

[Monique]

Originally posted by Sonty
But how can you not feel bad when you're not satisfied with yourself? If you have any trace of egocentrism in you you will. You can "survive" other things not being "perfect", but yourself?

Its shows to me an unbalanced situation, which is pulled out of proportion. I mean, egocentrism is not really healthy and a rather asocial behaviour.

Does something perfect exist? In real life not really. It is all about balancing things, you work until your feeling of satisfaction reaches a certain level. A perfectionist sets a bar higher than the average person and will work longer on a certain project and pay more attention to details.

I once new a person whose perception of life was based on perfectionalism, which is where I get my statement from: egocentrism is not really healthy and a rather asocial behaviour.

I tried convincing the person of the extend of perfectionalism and the harm it was doing, which only led to a lot of hoopla where the point had to be proven to me, that perfectionalism is in fact the best thing in the world and that it leads to a perfect life.

Well, I didn't have to prove anything for myself, the observation was clear enough.

 

[Mentat]

Originally posted by Monique
You were looking for the union jack? http://www.click-smilies.de/sammlung0903/travesmilies/flaggen1/smilie_flagge3.gif

These smilies are just...wicked http://www.click-smilies.de/sammlung0903/teufel/devil-smiley-009.gif


...btw, just watch the smilie for a while.

 

[jimmy p]

those smileys are cool, i want them.

lookie lookie, at this moment, i am one post away from 100!

 

[Sonty]

Originally posted by Monique
Does something perfect exist? In real life not really. It is all about balancing things, you work until your feeling of satisfaction reaches a certain level. A perfectionist sets a bar higher than the average person and will work longer on a certain project and pay more attention to details.

maybe trying to find the "perfect" balance?
what if the project in question is "ME"?

I once new a person whose perception of life was based on perfectionalism, which is where I get my statement from: egocentrism is not really healthy and a rather asocial behaviour.

I tried convincing the person of the extend of perfectionalism and the harm it was doing, which only led to a lot of hoopla where the point had to be proven to me, that perfectionalism is in fact the best thing in the world and that it leads to a perfect life.

Well of course it doesn't lead to a perfect life. It doesn't even lead to a happy life. At least not under "normal" standards.
Ignorance is bliss...