Concerning the Einstein train example you can read off everything from the Minkowski diagram attached to #19. Alice is in the restframe of the train (black Minkowski coordinates), the world lines of the endpoints of the compartment are the blue vertical lines. Bob's Minkowski coordinates, who is at rest on the embarkment is depicted by the red Minkowski axes. He is moving with ##\beta<0## wrt. Alice, i.e., the train is moving in positive ##x'##-direction seen from Bob's point of view.
Now the lightnings hit the ends of the compartment exactly simultaneously at Bob's time ##t'=0##, where Alice and Bob are right at the same spot at ##x'=0##. Alice is at rest in the middle of the compartment. The light signals from the lightnings are depicted by the orange light-like world lines, and of course they reach Bob simultaneously, because his distance from the two sources is the same and the light signals have started simultaneously for Bob from their sources.
For Alice the lightnings have hit the ends of the compartment not simultaneously but as the horizontal lines of constant ##t## (Alice's time) show the lightning hit the front end earlier than the one at the rear end, and consequently the light signals arrive at Alice's place also not simultaneously. That's only, because Alice moves with constant relative to Bob, and both are in inertial frames and thus for both space (i.e., in this 1+1-dimensional example the black and red spatial axis) is Euclidean, but it's clear that necessarily the spatial axis of Alice and Bob cannot be the same, because the speed of light must be the same for both Alice and Bob. So it also depends on the observer, which spatial submanifold of Minkowski space is taken as "space", i.e., the hypersurfaces of simultaneous events.