Exchanging limits and anything else, i.e. derivatives, sums, integrals depends on whether or not a sequence of functions is uniformly convergent. Since in Hilbert space, the inner product is either a sum for discrete or an integral for continuous cases, such a result is dependent on whether or not the sequences of functions x_n and y_n converge uniformly to x and y respectively. That is the answer to your question.
More explicitly, if you have two sequence of functions, x_n and y_n which are continuous on some set and converge uniformly to x and y, then x and y will also be continuous on those sets. Likewise, if you take the inner product of two sequences of functions take the limit, you could interchange the limit and the integral (or sum) if the integral (or sum) converges for each n and if the sequences of functions are uniformly convergent.
Note: the latter result doesn't even need the functions to be continuous, and also this has nothing to do with whether or not the inner product is a "continuous function"... I actually don't think that is a true statement in general. It is however sesquilinear (linear in its first argument and antilinear in its second), which is basically consequence of the fact that its basically sum and conjugate symmetry. If the codomain is the set of real numbers (< . , . >: HxH --> R), then conjugate symmetry becomes symmetry, and sequilinearity becomes bilinearity. Regardless, because of this linearity, the basic rules of limits apply which are exactly what I just stated.
As for a source, proofs of these statements can be usually found in any elementary book on real analysis. Many will tell you to check out Rudin, or someone like that, I personally am very fond of Real Mathematical Analysis by Charles Chapman Pugh. However, I don't know if you could find a statement of this exact result. Most real analysis books will begin with real analysis of functions of one variable and build up to how and when to interchange things like this, and then generalize to very abstract spaces and expect you to be able to infer and apply results like this to those more abstract spaces. However, generalizations of the basic concepts to other types of metric spaces be easily arrived at once the basic idea is understood.