Lunct said:
Einstein proved that gravity wasn't a force, but a distortion of spacetime, when he got some guy to take a photo of an eclipse in Africa. Also we have more proof today because time is slightly faster on the ISS than on earth. So when I google it, why does it say gravity is a force? Why does my science teacher say it is a force? Is it a force or not?
In the theory of non-relativistic Newtonian gravity, gravity is a force. That theory works very well, and is much easier to understand, and has been around for a long time. That's why gravity is treated as a force in many contexts, such as high school science, and in many places on the web.
The story of the development of General Relativity (henceforth GR) starts to unfold when we look at the development of special relativity. A review or what relativity says and why it's broadly accepted is probably needed, but it would be off-topic and long, so I'll omit it and hope for the best. The main point is that Newtonian gravity, even though it works very well in its realm of applicability, but Newtonian gravity simply isn't compatible with special relativity. Einstein realized this early on, one of the reasons is the existence of gravitational time dilation that you mention. Another reason Newtonian gravity isn't compatible with special relativity is that Newtonian gravity requires instantaneous action at a distance, an observation that bothered Newton enough that he said "I make no hypotheisis" as to how this could be. In General Relativity, gravity is NOT an instantaneous action at a distance, this issue doesn't arise in GR.
Attempting to reconcile gravity with special relativity led Einstein, after a very long search, to the concept of general relativity, where gravity isn't a force. Einstein made specific predictions from his theory, which were tested, and turned out to be true. The deflection of light is one of those predictions.
So in a nutshell (and this may be slightly oversimplified), in the context of Newtonian theory, gravity is considered to be a force, and is treated as such. In the context of general relativity, gravity is not considered to be a force, and is not treated as such. Both theories are actively used and taught - Newtonian theory is perfectly adequate for many applications, as is Newtonian gravity. Newtonian gravity is also much easier to learn, and usually only specialists who need it are taught General Relativity, typicially at a post-graduate level.
To really understand why gravity is a force in Newtonian gravity and isn't in General Relativity, one needs the necessary understanding of both theories. The later is a challenging and typically taught (if at all) at a graduate level, so there is a fair amount of confusion on the topic, especially among people with an interest in science but without a formal graduate level education.
While a full understanding of the topic of why gravity in GR, is not a force involves some highly technical points, it is reasonably safe to say that the student who tries to learn General Relativity and still treat gravity as a force will become very confused. So we can give such students and prospective students a heads-up warning in advance, that they will have to re-thinking some cherished notions to fully understand GR, that they will confuse themselves if they try to cling too tightly to the familiar rather than learn the new.
This answers the original question I hope, but there's one more point to be made. Relativity wasn't the only breakthrough in physics, another important breakthrough was quantum mechanics. Quantum mechanics has its own notion of what a force is, the popularized version of this notion is that a force is something that's carried by a virtual particle. I believe there is a bit of a linguistic issue here, I don't think the quantum notion of a force as something carried by a virtual particle is exactly the same as the classical notion due to Newton, even though we use the same name. Perhaps this point could be argued, I don't know for sure. The application of all this to gravity is the possible existence of a way to describe gravity as something carried by a virtual particle. The short answer to this is there are some proposals along this line , but I'd say that the consensus view is that we don't yet have a description of gravity in these terms.
Another way of talking about this issue is to say that we don't have a full theory of quantum gravity, even though there is a lot written about it. People sometimes ask for more of science than it can give. In the end, science is about what works, and it's possible that our current notions of what gravity is may in the future change as we get more data and more and better experiments. GR has become very well tested though, even the most extreme cases we have study (gravitational waves emitted from black hole inspirals) appear at this time to be compatible with GR, and do not suggest any new physics.