Quantumkiko-
"You guys are doing it all wrong" is a claim that many people would find disrespectful and arrogant. If you have a PhD in physics, you're free to pursue any line of research you feel might be fruitful. If you don't have one, you might consider the possibility, remote as it might be, that you don't know more about theoretical physics than the entire rest of the community and that maybe, just maybe, those who spent years studying the field might, just might, know what they are doing.
Second, your premise is completely untrue. There have been many, many attempts at unifications that do not involve gravity. This goes back at least 34 years - there was a paper by Pati and Salam entitled "Lepton Number as the Fourth Color" which tries to do exactly this. This is an extraordinarily famous paper - with 2790 citations, it is the 34th most cited paper in all of HEP, and the single most cited BSM phenomenological model. The arrogance of your claim is only overshadowed by its ignorance.