darkchild said:
In everyday speech, time is an abstract concept, so neither gravity nor any other physical mechanism can alter it. With that meaning in mind, the concept of time dilation seems absurd.
But this abstract concept of time turns out not to work. For example, if this abstract concept of time were correct, the clocks on the GPS satellites would not have to be adjusted in order to put out time signals that match clocks on Earth.
darkchild said:
laypeople, who are discussing it from outside — from a position that prioritizes their knowledge of and experience with the natural world, seeking to fit the theory in with that
But this viewpoint assumes that laypeople have a consistent conception of their knowledge of and experience with the natural world, which is often not true; not that people explicitly seek out inconsistency, but that they've never been forced to consider all the implications of their unexamined beliefs. Also, it assumes (implicitly) that people's knowledge and experience with the natural world covers a wide enough range of phenomena to be applicable when modern physics is being discussed. That is certainly not true; nobody's everyday experience includes phenomena in which relativity is significant, and while many aspects of our everyday experience ultimately depend on quantum phenomena, the connection is not obvious and is not part of people's knowledge of and experience with those phenomena. (Btw, I'm not trying to point fingers here: what I've said in this paragraph describes
me before I learned about relativity and QM.)
Studying physics, particularly relativity and QM, forces people to face up to the limitations of their everyday knowledge and experience, and to confront the fact that many of their unexamined beliefs and assumptions, based on the limited range of phenomena in their everyday experience, are actually wrong. Those beliefs and assumptions work reasonably well as approximations in the limited domain of everyday experience, but they break down outside that domain.
IMO one of the first things anyone who wants to learn about modern physics should do is to accept the fact that their intuitions will not work. But I do agree that people won't see the need to do this just from being given reams of theory. They need to be confronted with experimental results that simply do not match their intuitions.
darkchild said:
The whole purpose of physics is to describe the natural world; if people don't see a correspondence between the two, the discipline is failing in a crucial way.
But if you define "the natural world" as "the world most people are familiar with from their everyday experience", which is what your statement that I quoted earlier implicitly does, then there is
not a correspondence between the two. That's the problem. People come into relativity and QM expecting their intuitions to work, and they don't. They expect "time" to work the way it works in everyday experience, and then they find out that it doesn't. Well, it doesn't. There's no way around that.
Now, if someone asks, "
Why doesn't time work the way it seems to work in everyday experience?", then we've made progress. We can at least try to answer that question--although "why" questions in physics always end up bottoming out somewhere; there is always a point where the answer is "because that's the way we've found things to be". But we can at least explain about proper time, and how it depends on the particular path you take through spacetime, and how people who take different paths through spacetime can have different elapsed proper times when they meet up again, and show experimental results that confirm that yes, this happens. But the person has to start by asking the question--by at least admitting the possibility that time
doesn't work the way it seems to work in everyday experience. The person who keeps on saying, "But time should work
this way!" in the face of all the evidence that it doesn't--well, there isn't much we can do here at PF for that person, except to keep them from interfering with the discussion.