Constantinos said:
And I'm mostly referring to things like remembering only the things that suit us, or forgetting hurtful situations or overconfidence. Not so much on dependence.
For overconfidence, the easiest way to cure that is throw someone in the deep-end or challenge them in any way.
Many people that have an aura of confidence aren't really confident. If you put them in a situation where they can bs their way out of it, then you will see some serious ****. Also I don't advocate making a mockery of someone in this state, but just reminding them that the world is hard, life is hard, and that if you think can take the heat then tone down a bit, keep a clear head and start cooking.
Also if a person was able to handle every single challenge that was thrown to them from everyone, then they probably deserve a little confidence.
I think some traits like arrogance can be separated from confidence. I would like the world to be confident without the traits like arrogance and the view that they can do whatever the hell they want to. Also I would like real confidence and not false confidence. Real confidence means that people are not willing to say that they don't know what they are talking about! That is real confidence: having the guts to tell people that you actually don't know something!
The thing is that people with this mindsight are the ones that go out and learn and get experience. The ones that really have no idea don't learn and just put on a facade and that is a very important thing to be aware of. Remember that a leader is not someone that tells everyone what to do the whole time: leaders have to follow as well when they are out of their depth.
As for hurtful situations or painful situations again I have a different take.
People need pain. This goes hand in hand with the confidence issue. If they have no pain or no worries some people think they are bulletproof and can do whatever the hell they want. Pain teaches us many lessons in many ways: it gives us empathy for one.
Also pain usually builds character. People that have ostracized and ridiculed who come out with a good moral compass and a clear head are going to be way more prepared for lifes challenges than the people that do not. We are dealt with experiences and it is in our collective interest to try and make sense of them in a variety of ways. We can use any experience both good and bad to learn lessons and teach other people and this is what many people do.
Also pain can be a good way to gain empathy if you treat the experience in the right context. It also helps some people become better people themselves since they know how pain feels and they don't wish others to feel the same way.
As for the things that suit us part, people will always believe what they want to. You can't tell people what to believe. If someone thinks the sky is orange, the world is a cube and pigs fly then that is their right to do so.
All you can do is engage in debate with other people, but don't do it because you want to prove to the world how right you really are. Many people still do that and have missed the point completely resulting in god knows how much tragedy and backwardness. If you want to inform people, debate and discuss something that is fine but everyone no matter how backward or troubled they are has the right to think what they think as long as they don't violate basic human rights.
A lot of people that want to change themselves will ultimately do so. Theres a great saying that Gerald Celente says that goes along the lines of "When the student is ready, the teacher appears" and I agree wholeheartedly with this. You can help people that are ready and people do this every day, but don't think that you know best for everyone else.
