dirk_mec1
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Should a man pay on a first date or not? A discussion here on PF a few years ago did not really provide a clear answer. What do you guys think, pay or not to pay?
I do not think you can get a clear answer, it is dependent on a mountain of different variables from cultural background to personal preference. It is undoubtedly a good gesture to offer to pay, but the situation may not require that. If the woman insists on paying for herself, it is probably a bad idea to keep insisting on paying. If the woman insists on the man paying without the offer being made, the man should consider if that is really relationship material.dirk_mec1 said:did not really provide a clear answer.
Orodruin said:I do not think you can get a clear answer, it is dependent on a mountain of different variables from cultural background to personal preference. It is undoubtedly a good gesture to offer to pay, but the situation may not require that.
Yes, I agree, although the last situation will happen unspoken.If the woman insists on paying for herself, it is probably a bad idea to keep insisting on paying. If the woman insists on the man paying without the offer being made, the man should consider if that is really relationship material.
dirk_mec1 said:So the general advice is to always pay if you are not sure? How about the fact that most first dates will not lead to a relationshiip? You'll keep on paying in that case right?
Is this an unwritten rule?HallsofIvy said:The one who invited the other should pay.