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I must say I am partial to gherkins but wrt the original post I must concur with the go with whatever you feel is best line as voiced by many people.
Don't you like pickles?rocketboy said:wow incredible how off-topic this has gotten.
see rule #1Physics is Phun said:she asked, 'have you said I love you yet? it'll make her really happy'
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arildno said:Don't you like pickles?
Yes, we've had several discussions about pickles. Also, I LOVE pickles and Arildno's mom makes her own pickles, from how Arildno describes them, I'm just dying to taste one.rocketboy said:edit: I'm guessing i completely missed a PF inside joke there?
Evo said:Oh, and to stay on topic, "I love you rocketboy".
Hardees puts SWEET pickles on their $6 burger. That's sacrilege. Not to mention gross, disgusting and WRONG.Pengwuino said:I hate pickles. I had an awesome cheeseburger last night though and they tried to dump some pickles on me and i was like "dream on sucka".
I'm polyamorous.Pengwuino said:Cheating on me
More than what? Penguins?:tongue:Evo said:But I love you more. :tongue:
Evo said:Yes, we've had several discussions about pickles. Also, I LOVE pickles and Arildno's mom makes her own pickles, from how Arildno describes them, I'm just dying to taste one.
Oh, and to stay on topic, "I love you rocketboy".
It's fine in the platonic or fraternal context.Dimitri Terryn said:On a related note, I've noticed that the whole "I love you thing" is very strongly bound by cultural factors. It's seems to be a bigger deal in the US than in most of continental Europe. The question I have now for you people, is the following : how do you people feel about the phrase in a friendly (i.e. non-romantic) context?
Again it depends on the context. I say "I love you" to my wife, but that has a completely different meaning that if I use with a close friend or family member. I might just say "Love You" with a close friend or family member - and that simply indicates a great deal of affection in the context of that particular relationship.Dimitri Terryn said:I have a couple of good friends who happen to be of the female persuasion. From time to time I let them know that I love them, because I do as a friend, and they do the same. My impression is that this is a big nono in the Anglo-Saxon world. Is this correct?
It is normal for me to tell a friend that I feel affection for (platonic) that I love them.Dimitri Terryn said:On a related note, I've noticed that the whole "I love you thing" is very strongly bound by cultural factors. It's seems to be a bigger deal in the US than in most of continental Europe. The question I have now for you people, is the following : how do you people feel about the phrase in a friendly (i.e. non-romantic) context?
I have a couple of good friends who happen to be of the female persuasion. From time to time I let them know that I love them, because I do as a friend, and they do the same. My impression is that this is a big nono in the Anglo-Saxon world. Is this correct?
thenPhysics is Phun said:I told her and she said "oh (insert name), you don't know that yet." and then kissed me again. I said I DID know that (which I do) and I've know her long enough to be sure. she said "thanks" and left.
She needed time to process what you were saying. You put yourself in an awkward position, but dropping her off and not giving yourself time to explain. On the other hand, once she heard "I LOVE YOU", then I don't think she would have been receptive to an explanation.Physics is Phun said:yesterday on msn she actually said "I LOVE YOU" (capital letters) because i suggested we go to this restaurant that she really had a craving for at the time.
WTF! :!)
History - hers - not yours.Physics is Phun said:you know what I hate? how for 7 months that we've been best friends together means apparently nothing because now we're in "a relationship". that really pisses me off. and how can she think I would ever cheat on her?
Communication and Honesty the keys to meaningful, fulfilling and successful relationships. Of course, Communication and Honesty don't guarantee that a particular relationship will succeed, but without either, a relationship is guaranteed to fail.Physics is Phun said:I haven't even been with her for the last 7 months and I didn't want to be with anyone else!
Astronuc said:then
She needed time to process what you were saying. You put yourself in an awkward position, but dropping her off and not giving yourself time to explain. On the other hand, once she heard "I LOVE YOU", then I don't think she would have been receptive to an explanation.
History - hers - not yours.
Communication and Honesty the keys to meaningful, fulfilling and successful relationships. Of course, Communication and Honesty don't guarantee that a particular relationship will succeed, but without either, a relationship is guaranteed to fail.
She could have issues as Evo mentioned.Physics is Phun said:how can she say it to me all the time, but be so unreceptive and surprised when I tell her?
Yeah - most people seem to be about this subject.Physics is Phun said:I'm just so confused.
apparently that's the case. either that or she can love me but I can't love her...or maybe it's the other way around. Either way that doesn't make much sense.on the other hand, she may interpret the meaning differently.
Well perhaps that is the issue!Physics is Phun said:for some reason I thought telling her would help in my showing that I cared about her and that I was serious and would never cheat on her.
I second that.Evo said:To me there is a difference between saying "I love you" (platonic) and I am in love with you" (romantic).
Well we already have that from our friendship. And I wanted her to know that I also loved her.Arguments for a relationship are trust, caring, compatibility, comittment, mutual interests etc
Astronuc said:Male-female relationships are not rocket science - rocket science is way more easy!
Physics is Phun said:Well we already have that from our friendship. And I wanted her to know that I also loved her.
Apparently that was a mistake.
I don't know what to do now. How do I fix it? can I take it back? I don't want to, but if that will make it better I will!
agreedPS: in addition to "Engineering Guru" Astronuc should definitely have a "Relationship Guru" banner
Well what are you plans with this lady?Physics is Phun said:Well we already have that from our friendship. And I wanted her to know that I also loved her.
Apparently that was a mistake.
I don't know what to do now. How do I fix it? can I take it back? I don't want to, but if that will make it better I will!
I would disagree with this statement. Of course, love can be used euphemistically to mean "being in love".MeJennifer said:Caring for someone and loving someone are two entirely different things.
Well relationships have a lot to do with feelings. Being human is all about FEELINGS!MeJennifer said:Loving someone has to do with your feelings . . .
Thank you the compliment, but let's not go overboard.(PS: in addition to "Engineering Guru" Astronuc should definitely have a "Relationship Guru" banner!)
I'd agree with rocketboy's assessment. We can make him a relationship-Guru in training.rocketboy said:I think communication is very important, and in hindsight I think it was what my last relationship lacked and why it didn't work out in the end. I think you need to make sure she knows how you feel and vice-versa. It sounds to me (correct me if I'm wrong) that you two feel comfortable talking to each other about mature topics, having done so in the past. Rather than trying to take back what you have said, try to explain to her what you meant, explain to her how you feel.
What do you think Astronuc?
Then feel free to demonstrate what is similar between loving someone and caring for someone.Astronuc said:I would disagree with this statement. Of course, love can be used euphemistically to mean "being in love".
To promise to love someone in not impossible in my case - that's just the way I am. I will always love my parents, my siblings, my wife, my kids, my grandparents (when they were alive - and now I have fond memories), many friends, the animals who live with me, . . . . I don't stop loving or caring about someone.MeJennifer said:For instance one can make a promise to care for someone for the rest of his life, but to promise to love someone is simply impossible, one cannot control one's feelings.
Yes, to make an empty promise is being disingenuous.MeJennifer said:To say you love someone because that is what you promised is simply being disingenuous.
Because some folks use "loving someone" and "being in love with someone" interchangeably - hence the confusion for a lot of folks.MeJennifer said:I fail to see the relevance with bringing up "being in love" here.
Well I think you live in a dreamworld.Astronuc said:To promise to love someone in not impossible in my case - that's just the way I am. I will always love my parents, my siblings, my wife, my kids, my grandparents (when they were alive - and now I have fond memories), many friends, the animals who live with me, . . . . I don't stop loving or caring about someone.
In my case, when I say "I love you", that is a declaration in which lies a commitment - and in my case a permanent commitment of care and concern, amongst other things.
BTW - I do have a fair amount of control over my feelings.
Making a promise that you really have no control over is disingenuous.Astronuc said:Yes, to make an empty promise is being disingenuous.
:rofl: Nope. Same reality as you and everyone else.MeJennifer said:Well I think you live in a dreamworld.