Setting Limitations on Dating and Love

[maximismo]

There is much to talk about dating and love, but you and only you are responsible for your boundaries. But I don't know much about these boundaries. As I read in a magazine clip that during the dating stage we should not let someone else control our love, emotions or values, they are not the problem. Our inability to set limits on their control is the problem. There may be a loss of freedom to be oneself, dating and loving at the same time the wrong person and most of all sexual impropriety. Is there any specific site that expound more about this?, there are site which is most particular on love and dating. Do you know some sites that talk about dating and love in particular?

 

[FrancisZ]

There is much to talk about dating and love, but you and only you are responsible for your boundaries. But I don't know much about these boundaries. As I read in a magazine clip that during the dating stage we should not let someone else control our love, emotions or values, they are not the problem. Our inability to set limits on their control is the problem. There may be a loss of freedom to be oneself, dating and loving at the same time the wrong person and most of all sexual impropriety. Is there any specific site that expound more about this?, there are site which is most particular on love and dating. Do you know some sites that talk about dating and love in particular?

I really don't know of one; I'm sorry. If you want to apply science to it though: well, there's always Psychology.As for philosophical limitations, the rules I've come to live by are:

I. have no expectations (and you will never be disappointed again); and II. above all else, remember the dignity of the person with whom you are out with, at all times.

 

[lisab]

I really don't know of one; I'm sorry. If you want to apply science to it though: well, there's always Psychology.


As for philosophical limitations, the rules I've come to live by are:

I. have no expectations, and you will never be disappointed;


and


II. above all else, remember the dignity of the person with whom you are out with, at all times.

I find the second rule easy to follow. But how do you follow the first?

 

[I like Serena]

I find the second rule easy to follow. But how do you follow the first?

With disappointments I think!

 

[FrancisZ]

If I must be more precise: have no expectation of intimacy. Sure...hope for it...want it...but have no expectation that you'll ever be that fortunate on your date.

I'm a pessimist--so sue me (you probably will)!

 

[Pyrrhus]

I think, you should go with intention, and be a good sport. With intention to get the girl, but enough of a good sport to understand that no means no, and that's perfectly fine to you. Also, don't inhibit yourself, remember to shine and show that awesome personality you possess. You are YOU, and that is great by itself, so don't avoid it.

 

[Physics-Learner]

i think it is a sad state of affairs that so much revolves around sex to the male.

also a pretty good reason why most relationships don't work. the old venus and mars.

 

[FrancisZ]

Stereotypes suck.