W3pcq said:
My point is how can you even say that me or you or the observer is even moving or at rest.
Who is saying that? Certainly not relativity, which rules out the idea of absolute motion or absolute rest, and says that motion and rest can only be defined relative to a particular frame of reference.
W3pcq said:
I am moving away from you, but closer to some other object. You are moving away from me and away from other object. How is my speed determined.
Relativity gives no objective "speed" for anything, only speed in one frame of reference or another. If we are moving at 0.8c relative to one another, then in my rest frame I am at rest while your speed is 0.8c, and in your rest frame you are at rest while I am moving at 0.8c. Both frames are equally valid as far as relativity is concerned.
W3pcq said:
You could pick any object in space and say how fast we move relative to it, but that leaves any speed possible depending on which way you decide to measure.
Yes, that's exactly the point. Why is this a problem?
W3pcq said:
I thought that if space was somehow dragged around by mass, then a background could be in place for determining speed and the effects of time dilation.
No.
W3pcq said:
Lets say me and you are in space ships facing opposite directions and you accelerate but I do not. We are still traveling at equal relative speeds. Why would your clock read younger than mine when returned to point A?
Why? Because we will make that prediction no matter what
inertial frame we choose (the rules of SR such as time dilation only work in inertial frames, meaning the frames of observers who don't accelerate). We could pick a frame where you or at rest, or we could pick the frame of an observer who sees you moving at 0.99c, and the two frames would disagree on what my speed was on both the inbound and outbound leg of the trip, but they'd end up calculating the same value for how much I aged using the time dilation equation. You can see an example on
this thread; if you want to try analyzing it with some different numbers, just give the velocities and times for both the inbound and outbound leg of the trip in one frame, tell me how fast you want the second frame to be moving relative to the first, and I can show how the second frame will make the same prediction about aging in spite of seeing the speeds differently.