Roberto Pavani said:
Very interesting discussion. I'd note that the arXiv preprint I referenced in a related thread (Hobson, Barker & Lasenby, arXiv:2605.19719), proving that no local gauge-invariant energy-momentum tensor exists for the linearised gravitational field, seems relevant here as well.
Note that in non of my discussion w/Peter did either of us try to find the "energy momentum tensor of the gravitational field". We were always talking about the stress-energy-momentum tensor of the matter fields.
The SET of the "gravitational field" is subtle.
As a tensor, the SET must be well defined at every point and cannot be "transformed away" based on some coordinate transformation. However, the metric can be made to be ##\text{diag}(1,-1,-1,-1)## (depending on signature) at a point *and* the christoffel symbols made to be 0 *at a point* given some coordinates (see: Riemann Normal Coordinates).
So the dynamical parts of gravity is exhibited only "at the second derivative (curvature) level" -- this is a consequence of the equivalence principle.
It's hard to define a purely local object (SET) on a concept that you can locally "transform away".
In particular, note that ##\nabla_a T^{ab}=0## is a purely local conservation of energy of the matter fields and does not include the contributions from gravity. At a global scale you need a timelike KVF and asymptotic flat infinity to define something like the Komar mass which *does* include contributions from gravity.
But if the above condition on the SET is taken as a general "conservation of energy in GR" statement by practicing physics, I do not want to argue it. And I already conceded that point.