Integral said:
...If a plane is flying directly at you the red and green side lights should be visible, I did not notice them...
The omni-directional red/green navigation lights on the planes we regularly see from the SFSU observatory are not obvious when the plane is 20 degrees off the horizon and 20-30 km away. The plane's highly-directional landing lights, basically very powerful headlights, are aimed virtually straight at us, and significantly overwhelm the red/green navigation lights, which might not be visible at that distance anyway. Otherwise it would be easy for me to convince the visitors that the "bright star" they see near the horizon is a plane. They never believe me at first. But 90 seconds later, with the plane directly overhead, and the landing lights no longer pointed straight at us, the red/green flashing navigation lights, as well as the anti-collision strobe lights, are obvious, causing everyone to concede that their bright star is indeed an airplane.
This illusion only happens if you're on the airplane's flight path. Otherwise its motion is obvious, and its directional headlights are not aimed straight at you. Is it possible to determine if the place you were walking your dog is on your airport's landing flight path?
Integral said:
...I was thinking it could have been the space station, but, I have seen it, it really clips along, the motion is very obvious...
Not when it is close to the horizon coming towards you, and you are standing in its orbital plane. Then, like airplanes, most of its velocity with respect to you is radial, causing it to appear virtually stationary until it climbs higher in the sky, where its velocity wrt you is now mostly tangential. The only problem with the ISS or other satellite being your UFO is that they are very dim and barely noticable while near the horizon. That's because they're about 1000 km from you, and visible only from reflected light, rather than from high-power directional headlights. When the satellites climb higher in the sky, their angular velocity increases, their distance closes in on 200-300 km, and their brightness significantly increases, assuming it doesn't enter into Earth's shadow.