Unique Date Ideas: Get Creative & Have Fun!

[KingNothing]

Hi everybody. I'm going on a date with a girl tomorrow, I need some Ideas. We agreed that we both wanted something non-traditional, that means no movies.

What unique ideas can you come up with?

 

[DaveC426913]

Where do you live?

 

[Moonbear]

What sorts of things do you like to do? Quiet, intellectual, sports, outdoors, indoors? Without knowing where you live, I don't know what the climate is like there. Do you have places to go ice-skating, or if it's warmer, maybe there's a museum you can go to and then picnic on the lawn outside? If you're into it, are there any of those places that do drive-through Christmas light displays? That would seem nice for a first date if it's in the evening because you can ooh and aah at the lights, but mostly have a lot of time to sit in the car when you can drive very slowly which means you can talk a lot and get to know each other better.

Or, maybe you can find a place that has a rock-climbing wall and do that together?

Just tossing out a bunch of ideas...if they aren't your style, tell us what's more your style so we can help with better suggestions.

 

[The_Professional]

Comedy club, or any activity that requires the two of you doing something together at the very least: bowling, pool, miniature golf

 

[fourier jr]

there's a bug zoo in town here, I've always wanted to go to that. maybe there's somethng similar there?

 

[Lisa!]

amusement park!

 

[tribdog]

strip club

 

[ricardo kuhn]

Rent Harold & Maude for some inspiration..

best dates i ever see on a movie screen.

 

[Lisa!]

strip club

The only on topic post in this thread!

 

[mattmns]

Someone who hangs out at pf got a date? Ohh man lol, is KingNothing up for the funniest member award, cause with this thread he just got my vote!

 

[Moonbear]

It also might be helpful if we had an idea of your age...under 18, between 18 and 21, or over 21. The types of places you can go would depend on whether you're old enough to get into some.

Is there any place near you with a go-cart track? That would be fun for a bit...race each other, etc. Sure, you can't talk to each other while doing that, but it is good at the beginning of the date when you're both still nervous. You don't have to try to think of things to say right away, and after you've done racing each other (if you do it, I'm going to violate the feminist code and tell you to let her win if she doesn't do it on her own), you'll have something to talk about all night long, especially if she's a little competitive.

 

[KingNothing]

I live in minnesota. I'm 18, she's 17. It's sunday so it's hard to find places that are open.

 

[kuahji]

go fishing

jk I don't know your interests or if you live in the country or city or whatever. Museums are kool, or perhaps a planetarium.

 

[NewScientist]

Go help out at a soup kitchen - i met a girl that way once

 

[KingNothing]

See that's the thing, it's not a big enough town to have a museum, planetarium, or soup kitchen.

 

[honestrosewater]

Go help out at a soup kitchen - i met a girl that way once

That's the best idea I've ever heard. A soup kitchen or something similar. There are things you can do outdoors too -- community beautification projects and such. I imagine it would give you plenty to talk about afterwards. I guess it depends on the woman though.

 

[honestrosewater]

See that's the thing, it's not a big enough town to have a museum, planetarium, or soup kitchen.

It's the holidays. There are no charity events going on anywhere?

Are there nursing homes? Hospitals? A children's hospital? Go shopping for some toys. Take them to the children's hospital. I'd certainly remember that date.

 

[Danger]

Rosie, my idea of a strange date is you and me. And since N/W will insist upon being there, you'd better be bi and teach her to be.

 

[NewScientist]

This place gets weirder and weirder!

 

[honestrosewater]

Rosie, my idea of a strange date is you and me. And since N/W will insist upon being there, you'd better be bi and teach her to be.

No video cameras this time, right?

 

[Danger]

Agreed... reluctantly.

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

I'm probably too late but I think it would be fun to keep this thread going to share ideas. Let's see...

I once took a girlfriend to the nickle arcade to play House of the Dead. She had a blast but ofcourse she's a big fan of zombie slaying so it worked for her but not likely all ladies are going to be very impressed.

To go with Moonie's ideas there are placeds out here called Boomers where they have an arcade, miniature golf, gocarts, rock climbing, batting cages, laser tag, ect.. I have no idea if they have places like that where you are...
Ok apparently Boomers in particular are only in CA FL and NY.

Here's a place with listings particular to Minnesota...
http://www.exploreminnesota.com/Attractions.html
Some of the listings look pretty neat. Boating, biking, skydiving...
Skydiving is great but probably a bit expensive for a couple of kids your age, and she probably would need to be eighteen to sign the releases and what not.

I once was going to take a girl I was dating out shooting at a shooting range. She was another odd one and would have loved it. Opportunity never presented itself though.

I took one of my exs to see a blackbox theatre adaptation of Bram Stokers Dracula. Going to an actual theatre is different enough from going to the movies but not that different really if you're wanting a more active sort of date.
Dinner and theatre is also another thing that you don't see very often that could be neat. There's only one anywhere near where I live as far as I know though.

 

[franznietzsche]

Am I the only one here who notices that he came to a physics forum for date advice?

That said, if you're near Minneapolis, go see Triple Espresso. Its a hilarious play (my dad's cousin is actually in the company, though I don't think he's at Minneapolis right now). Dinner and theatre always work well.

 

[KingNothing]

Am I the only one here who notices that he came to a physics forum for date advice?

Notice that it's about strange dates. Where else would I go for strange?

 

[franznietzsche]

Notice that it's about strange dates. Where else would I go for strange?

Ah, that explains. Again, though, Triple Espresso. You'll laugh. You'll cry. You stand a decent chance of asphyxiating.

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

So did you go on the date yet? If so what did you decide on and how did it go?

 

[Moonbear]

Ooh, I really like that idea of going shopping for toys and then donating them to charity. This time of year, maybe there are some Toys For Tots drop-off boxes in the malls (you can probably find a listing of local drop-off locations online). You can have fun playing like kids at the toy store, and then feel really good about cheering up some kids when you donate them.

Probably way too late for this date, but if you want to do creative things for future dates, maybe you can sign up for some of those "classes" where you learn to make crafts like pottery, or folk dancing (small towns often have organizations that welcome beginners...attend a class to learn and then stay for the dance type events). I know it sounds totally hokey, but if you want different, it can be really funny to learn to dance together, especially stuff like contra dancing or square dancing, because you WILL trip over your own two feet a few times, and you will have funny stories about the people you meet there to talk about for years after.

 

[KingNothing]

I went on the date tonight. Probably not going to work out between us. Not because of mistakes, but I asked her how big of a role looks played in her attraction to guys, and she said a big role. I'm not a very pretty person. We had fun though. How come all the good lookers have to be into good looking guys?

Oh well, such is life. I still have my hands. What I mean is, I like writing and playing videogames. Yes..

 

[JasonRox]

Well, that sucks to hear.

I would have never of asked that question.

Anyways, good luck on your next date though!

 

[franznietzsche]

I went on the date tonight. Probably not going to work out between us. Not because of mistakes, but I asked her how big of a role looks played in her attraction to guys, and she said a big role. I'm not a very pretty person. We had fun though. How come all the good lookers have to be into good looking guys?

Oh well, such is life. I still have my hands. What I mean is, I like writing and playing videogames. Yes..

You have a lot to learn it seems. What people say is almost always irrelevant (well not really, but in this case yes). Odds are looks play a big role in her attraction to guys because all the guys she knows are losers and thus have no other attractive features. In fact, I'd put serious money on that. Looks only become super-important to attraction because those features that are more important to attraction are so rare in people.

On the other hand I'm a jaded jerk who does not exactly has something of a history of rather spectacular relationships (in terms of how disastrous they were) so maybe you shouldn't listen to me...

 

[KingNothing]

On the other hand I'm a jaded jerk who does not exactly has something of a history of rather spectacular relationships (in terms of how disastrous they were) so maybe you shouldn't listen to me...

That's precisely what my welcome e-mail suggested when I joined PF.

I know some of the guys she hangs out with though, and as homosexual as this may sound, they are pretty good looking (judging by what other girls have said). Oh well. Maybe I can convince her otherwise.

On the upside, attractive girls usually lead to more attractive girls, I'm sure some of her friends don't care as much about looks.

 

[franznietzsche]

That's precisely what my welcome e-mail suggested when I joined PF.

wait...what?

You're joking right? Right?

Actually it would be kinda flattering to know they warn newcomers about me right off the bat with the Welcome/Confirmation emails.

edit: Wow, i just reread the part you quoted. I need to proof read after rewording my sentences.

 

[KingNothing]

wait...what?

You're joking right? Right?

Sorry, but no. The 'joke' portion of my brain was burned off in a tragic house fire. I am incapable of creating or understanding humor.

 

[Moonbear]

I went on the date tonight. Probably not going to work out between us. Not because of mistakes, but I asked her how big of a role looks played in her attraction to guys, and she said a big role. I'm not a very pretty person.

If looks are important to her, and she was interested in going on a date with you, that just might mean she DOES think you're good-looking, no matter what you think of yourself. Remember, everyone has different views of what they consider good looking. So, don't just give up based on that...she might have been complimenting you with that answer!

 

[KingNothing]

Well, we never really pre-established whether or not it was a date. I thought it might be, so I planned as such just in case. But, she wore a sweatshirt.

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

If looks are important to her, and she was interested in going on a date with you, that just might mean she DOES think you're good-looking, no matter what you think of yourself. Remember, everyone has different views of what they consider good looking. So, don't just give up based on that...she might have been complimenting you with that answer!

Exactly... Most women don't even give me a second look but there are still a significant number of them that tell me I'm "Hot", not just "good looking" or "cute" but "hot" and it leaves me wondering if they have the right perscription for their glasses.

 

[KingNothing]

Exactly... Most women don't even give me a second look but there are still a significant number of them that tell me I'm "Hot", not just "good looking" or "cute" but "hot" and it leaves me wondering if they have the right perscription for their glasses.

Brag brag brag.

 

[Moonbear]

Well, we never really pre-established whether or not it was a date. I thought it might be, so I planned as such just in case. But, she wore a sweatshirt.

Well, what had you planned to do? Was a sweatshirt appropriate attire? I dress for dates based on what the planned activities are. If we're going out to dinner, I dress up, if we're going to a movie, jeans and a nice shirt will do, if it's something more active or outdoors, jeans and a sweatshirt may seem more appropriate. Since you were looking for strange ideas of things to do, she probably wasn't expecting dinner and a movie.

 

[franznietzsche]

Well, what had you planned to do? Was a sweatshirt appropriate attire? I dress for dates based on what the planned activities are. If we're going out to dinner, I dress up, if we're going to a movie, jeans and a nice shirt will do, if it's something more active or outdoors, jeans and a sweatshirt may seem more appropriate. Since you were looking for strange ideas of things to do, she probably wasn't expecting dinner and a movie.

Indeed, evening gowns and bumper cars, while fun are usually a recipe for disaster.

 

[Moonbear]

Indeed, evening gowns and bumper cars, while fun are usually a recipe for disaster.

Now that would have qualified as a strange date...especially if KingNothing was the one who wore the evening gown.

 

[turbo]

Well, we never really pre-established whether or not it was a date. I thought it might be, so I planned as such just in case. But, she wore a sweatshirt.

Try being her friend for a while. Don't be pushy, and do be available for her to talk to for ANY reason. Friends are very nice to have, and even if it doesn't blossom into something more, you can enjoy her company, and if she thinks you're a "nice guy", she will introduce you to her friends - believe me, females know when their female friends are looking for "something more" WAY before the soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend ever gets a clue.

Good luck.

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

Brag brag brag.

Not bragging. Just saying that you could easily find there are women out there who want to pounce on you and you just don't realize it.
Women tend to have very different ideas of what is and is not attractive. Haven't you ever seen a drop dead gorgeous woman who was dating a guy that looked like something the cat dragged in?
Also women love men with confidence. If you act insecure because you think she isn't going to find you attractive it's possible that she will not find you attractive because you are insecure instead of what ever reason you are imagining.

 

[KingNothing]

You guys have opened my eyes. You know why I'm really happy right now? I just realized something great. I don't understand women very well at all! This is awesome! This means that all the times I think a girl won't go for me, I could be wrong! I love being wrong!

on a more serious note, I agree with you turbo. That's what I'm doing for now. I'll make a few moves and if nothing happens, it's still fun just hanging out.

TSA - oh, yeah I see what you meant now. That's what I'm hoping for...and I agree with you that that's the strange way it is, I just hope I can realize it. Damn women with their damn hints...just come out and say it if you like us! (nude pics by e-mail are a great way to do this)

And what's this about me wearing an evening gown? I should have known you monkeys would get outta hand eventually:P

 

[franznietzsche]

Now that would have qualified as a strange date...especially if KingNothing was the one who wore the evening gown.

That would not have been a recipe for disaster. Quite the contrary it would have been a recipe for hot steamy romance. Zap Brannigan style. A very sensuous style it is too. Oh yeah.

 

[TheNoble]

Thanks for all the good ideas guys. I feel so pathetic when it comes to dating. Which I find incredibly aggrevating since I'm normally pretty good around girls and I'm not shy or anything. I guess I just thought that the only hard part was asking the girl out and that after that things would get easier. No such luck. I think I'll see if she'd like to go to the Mall of America for Cold Stone or something. Anyway, thanks for all the advice I mooched in on, and if you have any more I'd be really appreciative.

Yeah, so I sort of barged in on this thread but it looks like it got dropped a year ago anyway. KingNothing, I hope you and your girlfriend are having a good time if in fact things did work out for the two of you.