davidge said:
You are making it much harder for yourself by using abstract notation, instead of just using ##x## and ##y## for the Cartesian coordinates and ##r##, ##\theta## for the polar coordinates.
Here is the expression for ##\xi## that I wrote down:
$$
\xi = \xi^x \partial_x + \xi^y \partial y
$$
Translating this into your notation, it becomes
$$
\xi = \xi^1 \frac{\partial}{\partial x^1} + \xi^2 \frac{\partial}{\partial x^2}
$$
Now let's write the same vector ##\xi## in polar coordinates:
$$
\xi = \xi^r \partial_r + \xi^\theta \partial_\theta
$$
Translating this into your notation, and using primes, it becomes
$$
\xi = \xi'^1 \frac{\partial}{\partial x'^1} + \xi'^2 \frac{\partial}{\partial x'^2}
$$
We now have two expressions for the same vector ##\xi##, so we can equate them:
$$
\xi^1 \frac{\partial}{\partial x^1} + \xi^2 \frac{\partial}{\partial x^2} = \xi'^1 \frac{\partial}{\partial x'^1} + \xi'^2 \frac{\partial}{\partial x'^2}
$$
Now we can specialize this general expression to the two particular cases, ##\xi_{(1)}## and ##\xi_{(2)}##. Since we know ##\xi^2_{(1)} = \xi^1_{(2)} = 0##, we obtain the expressions
$$
\frac{\partial}{\partial x^1} = \xi'^1_{(1)} \frac{\partial}{\partial x'^1} + \xi'^2_{(1)} \frac{\partial}{\partial x'^2}
$$
$$
\frac{\partial}{\partial x^2} = \xi'^1_{(2)} \frac{\partial}{\partial x'^1} + \xi'^2_{(2)} \frac{\partial}{\partial x'^2}
$$
In my notation, this would be
$$
\frac{\partial}{\partial x} = \xi'^r_{(1)} \frac{\partial}{\partial r} + \xi'^\theta_{(1)} \frac{\partial}{\partial \theta}
$$
$$
\frac{\partial}{\partial y} = \xi'^r_{(2)} \frac{\partial}{\partial r} + \xi'^\theta_{(2)} \frac{\partial}{\partial \theta}
$$
Comparing this to the equations I wrote down earlier for transforming the basis vectors, we can see that
$$
\xi'^r_{(1)} = \frac{\partial r}{\partial x}
$$
$$
\xi'^\theta_{(1)} = \frac{\partial \theta}{\partial x}
$$
$$
\xi'^r_{(2)} = \frac{\partial r}{\partial y}
$$
$$
\xi'^\theta_{(2)}= \frac{\partial \theta}{\partial y}
$$
Translating this back into your notation, we obtain
$$
\xi'^1_{(1)} = \frac{\partial x'^1}{\partial x^1}
$$
$$
\xi'^2_{(1)} = \frac{\partial x'^2}{\partial x^1}
$$
$$
\xi'^1_{(2)} = \frac{\partial x'^1}{\partial x^2}
$$
$$
\xi'^2_{(2)}= \frac{\partial x'^2}{\partial x^2}
$$
Note the pattern, which is not the same (at least it does not appear to be) as the one you were assuming.
davidge said:
In this case will I have to solve the derivatives
No. To evaluate ##\partial r / \partial x##, you need a formula for ##r## in terms of ##x## and ##y##. What is that formula? Once you have it, you just take its derivative with respect to ##x## to get ##\partial r / \partial x##. Similarly for the other partial derivatives.