What is it like to become a father at 50 with a wife who is 43?

[jlcd]

What is the experience of fatherhood at 50 when your baby was born when you turned 50 years old? Wife is say 43 years old.

 

[jedishrfu]

I can’t say as I was almost 30. However, I think it’s an amazing experience no matter what age. At 50 though, you’re probably going to get ribbed about being a grandpa instead of a dad especially as you age and get gray hair. People make so many assumptions but it’s hard to say what it will be like for you exactly.

Enjoy the experience though it’s awesome.

 

[dlgoff]

I was 45 when my youngest daughter was born. Awesome experience. But there may be gray hair involved. e.g.

 

[skeptic2]

My wife and I adopted a daughter when I was 47. The problem is that now I am 69 and would like to retire but my daughter is 21 and in college. She currently is paying for her education by working part time at minimum wage and getting scholarships. If I retire and go on Medicare, I will have to find health care for her.

Other than that, becoming a father at 47 has been a blast. My wife and I had discussed adopting but hadn't made a decision. Then one day my sister in law, who is a nurse in obstetrics, called to say she had a baby we could adopt. The next day we took possession of the baby and began the adoption process. Note, the adoption was completed in nine months in Mexico without paying any bribes or breaking any Mexican laws. Having a one day notice of becoming a father was shocking but adopting her was one of the best decisions we ever made.