Pardon my ignorant input here, but I'm fascinated by this thread. Most of the terms are double-dutch to me, but in GM terms, I feel comfortable with my concept of gravity. Forgive my audacity for putting my thoughts forward in such esteemed company, but...
In reasoning about gravity, I considered the centrifuge. We "use" centrifugal force as a convenience, yet it doesn't exist. At first logic dictates it must be there, until we understand that the balancing force to centripetal comes from a tangential source (pun intended).
In a similar way, thinking of gravity as a force is convenient, yet GM suggests (to me in my limited grasp of it) that gravity is not a force at all.
Trying to reason this through, I note that gravity is the only force I know about that I cannot feel unless some force opposes it, and then I only feel it to the magnitutude of the opposing force. When I stand on the ground, I feel the force of it pressing against my feet. But maybe assuming there is a force pushing down on me is like believing in centrifugal force? Perhaps we should say "For every force there is an equal and opposite force or effect".
If I am traveling through space, approaching the Earth but not on a direct collision course, I can imagine I'll be drawn towards the planet. Yet I feel no acceleration. The comfortable notion is that gravity acts as a force on all parts of my body simultaneously, but if it isn't a force? What if I actually experience no acceleration at all; indeed, I would feel none.
Hence, the space-time bending. In truth, I experience no acceleration because none exists. My path is actually a straight line. I explain the contradictory evidence of my eyes by assuming the photons reaching me are not nearly as affected by space-time bending, hence their "straight path" is different than mine. I should imagine that I too am bending space-time since I have a mass, and I wonder how this interacts with the bending created by Earth's mass.
Is my "baby grasp" more or less on track so far?
I understand photons have no mass, but display some behavior of particles. Is this somehow involved in explaining why what I see does not match reality? Light bends a little by gravity, doesn't it? The is the reason a black hole is black, yes?
Ah, is that it? Velocity must have some part to play on the equation of space-time bending, and what will constitute the "straight path" for any given object.
I hope someone more knowledgeable than me can pick up what I'm thinking and point me in the right direction...