Sorry, this will possibly sound snappy...
wofsy said:
Ok. 1) [...] The de Broglie waves are formalisms only - they are just the components of the Fourier decomposition of the wave function.
[...] OK. this then seems to be something physically real - yet we are saying here that it is purely a formalism.
2) then for unexplained reasons we are suddenly allowed to superpose these deBroglie waves and there seems to be no physical intuition for that - we just do it.
3)The when we add a non-constant potential, the de Brogie waves go away all together. We just modify the Shroedinger equation for the for the free particle with a potential term and zoom along. Where is the phsical intuition for that?
1) This is really badly phrased, because it assumes a very negative view of the word formalism. Actually it reminds me of people who call the theory of relativity "just a theory". The problems are in the nature of quantum mechanics. Either you accept it all as real, or you fight with the reconciliation of the probabilistic nature of quantum mechanics with your concept of reality. You are not the first one who does this, but quantum mechanics doesn't care.
The decomposition and the reality of it could be exemplified with a piece of butter. Someone might call it a rectangular block of butter, and someone might say that it consists of two pieces of equal weight and demonstrates it but cutting it in the middle, and then somebody might say it's three pieces of equal weight cutting it twice. Here we decomposed the piece of butter into rectangular functions in different ways. If you want, you can call it a formalism, but nonetheless these pieces are real, and we can do physical things with them. Once we "change the potential" for our piece of butter, and say the left half is pulled to the left and the right half is pulled to the right, it makes more sense to speak of two pieces of butter than of one piece or three.
2) Superimposing is something you can simply do with waves, because of the differential equation that governs their behavior. If that equation is again a nasty formalism to you. Than you may call QM unintuitive or learn more about these equations till they feel natural.
3) Either you find some intuition in the piece of butter analogy or cannot help. I know that QM is very confusing in the beginning. There are a few different ways of looking at the same problem, and once you get introduced to one you try to cling to it. So when you see a new formalism, you want to understand it in terms of the old formalism, which is certainly possible, but one formalism is not better or more real then the other. Now I want to steal your de Broglie waves and you resist, because you try to make it to the base of your understanding, but if you look closely there was not much intuition in accepting de Broglie waves as real either.
Learn the problems in the beginning of the quantum mechanics textbooks, with the particle in the box, the harmonic oscillator, and the hydrogen atom as a base. Things to avoid in the beginning: de Broglie, Bohm, Path Integrals, QFT, density matrices, matrix mechanics, Sommerfeld formalism. Also the historical texts are terrible learning material. At least I find the intuitions that these people used to get their ideas more confusing then helpful.