You have asked a complex question. IF you really want a good read, I suggest THREE ROADS TO QUANTUM GRAVITY, by Lee Smolin...I have a 2001 edition and the following comes from there:
(There are a myriad of quantum theories and string theories so specific examples of each might have some different component relationships. You might also be interested that the Holographic principle appears to be a fundamental principle in BOTH approaches.)
Both string theory and loop quantum gravity are theories about what space and time are like ...on the Planck scale...the theories are converging...and these different approaches may be different windows into the very same tiny world...
Extra curled up dimensions in string theory are necessary to make string theories mathematically consistent, not any desire to marry string theory with other theories. In other words, no one to my knowledge manipulated hidden string theory dimensions to achieve some goal with gravity. (But not all extra dimensions yield conditions like those in our universe.) In fact the reverse happened: It was accidentally discovered that consistent string theory included a "gravity particle"...that was NOT an intent of early string theory. String theory was NOT originally developed to study gravity!
couldn't you just as easily say the universe is bigger than we thought and that's why gravity is so weak?
Gravity derives from matter and energy in the universe and on large scales it's pretty uniform; so local gravity does not derive from the size of the universe but mostly from local mass and energy. The universe is getting bigger every day, anyway, due to cosmological expansion. Another way to think about this is that gravity from the cosmological horizon, for example, because it's so far away, is negligible in our galaxy.
And if you label the three dimensions of space and the dimension of time as dimensions, why isn't temperature a dimension of an objects existence, or any other fundamental unit of an object such as the SI base units of measure?
There are three space dimensions and one of time in classical relativty, four in total. That's because Einstein's equations related those to the effects of gravity; his equations did not tease out temperature as a fundamental entity. But his equations do show that gravity is effected by energy,mass even pressure: more energy, more mass leads to more gravity, so a hot brick has more "mass" than a cold brick.