I've missed several days, so I won't get back into the debate, but I do have one comment on debating itself:
Schrodinger's Dog said:
Also pointing out that the ratio of civillian death to military death is also a fact, facts are then used in arguments to convey meaning by correlation of fact we then use a condition or a proposition based on such facts to suggest our reasoning behind a view point;
we can of course add an emotional context to strengthen our case such as an anecdotal account from someone at ground zero and so on 
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Though often used in - indeed, often the basis of - such debates, that tactic is
invalid for a debate, practically
by definition. Emotions are to be avoided because they
get in the way of what should really be guiding our actions: logic/reason. Indeed, acting on emotion is often the underlying
problem that starts messes like the Arab/Israel crisis in the first place.
To put a finer point on it, though, PF has adopted rules (for the reasons above) that specify that discussions need to be rational to be acceptable here. That's not a warning or anything, I just wanted to point it out.
Could you explain why, if I say "thousands of people are dying in Xistan and we need to send help now", and someone says "why it's none of my concern" and you say "God damn it these people only need a few dollars each and we can save hundreds of lives", and you say... You get the idea, emotion is not only a key element to any argument or discussion if you can't use it then your arguments are perhaps precise, but also somewhat hollow and unlikely to get as much attention or of a result as one using the feelings of people in situations.
No. People use emotion because it is effective but it is effective only because peoples' ability to reason is poor. That hypothetical works perfectly well when approached rationally - indeed, it
only works emotionally if it is the only thing in your head at the time. The minute you provide another emotional situation somewhere else, that situation disappears. The only way to responsibly choose between giving money to the people in your scenario and, say, people who are dying because an earthquake in Yistan knocked out their infrastructure is to do a cost-benefit analysis to determine how much positive impact your finite amount of money will have in each case.