peterf1 said:
I have been reading various forums etc but can't find a clear explanation of how the space-time warping causes an object to accelerate/gain energy.
I don't want pseudo explanations about potential energy etc.
Thanks
Energy in GR is unfortunately a rather advanced topic. So I don't think you'll really find an explanation that's both simple and correct for the energy part of your question.
"Geodesic deviation", which I think a few posters (such as AT and Dr. Greg) have explained via diagrams can explain the acceleration part of your question.
http://www1.kcn.ne.jp/~h-uchii/apple.html
has some information on this, you might find the posts here just as readable. A textbook reference (graduate level) is MTW's big black book "Gravitation". You can probably find a similar explanation in "Exploring BLack Holes" or in other undergraduate treamtments of GR, but I can't definitively point at one at the moment.
A correct but not particularly simple or intuitive explanation for the energy part of your question is that energy can be associated with a time translation symmetry by noether's theorem.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Noether's_theorem
Noether's (first) theorem states that any differentiable symmetry of the action of a physical system has a corresponding conservation law.
When the symmetry is a time translation symmetry, you get a conserved energy. When the symmetry is a space translation symmetry, you get a conserved momentum.
There are fundamental difficulties even defining energy in a general fashion in GR, so you're going to be running into lots of difficultes here, because you are asking "how is energy conserved" when you should reallly be asking "is energy conserved".
For a quick overview about the status of energy in GR try the sci.physics.faq
http://math.ucr.edu/home/baez/physics/Relativity/GR/energy_gr.html
My general impression is that most laypeople who read it tend to "blow it off". There's not much I can do about that except try to say that It Really Is Like That, that we Really Don't Have a universally applicable notion of energy in GR, though we have several that work in important special cases.
To try and make this even simpler, if you ask "do we have ways of defining energy in the Scwhazschild metric of a black hole", the answer is yes. If you ask "can we define the energy of the universe" the answer is "not currently, at least not for a general universe or for our own". It's rather liikely that we'll never have a good defintition applicable to "the energy of the uiverse" but the arguments as to why it's difficult may not be totally conclusive, perhaps there is something that people who have been working on the issue for the last 100 years or so have missed.