Doc Al and jtbell, I must dissent.
I've always thought of special relativity as a simple subject, where the answers fell out almost automatically. Until, that is, I came to Physics Forums and read some of the 'explanations' offered! The goal, it seems, is to do it all without using the appropriate mathematics. Special Relativity is about four-vectors. With the use of four-vectors, most SR problems have a similar formulation and a quick solution.
But instead I see rambling multi-page verbal descriptions, with step after step and diagram after diagram. Maybe I have an unusually short attention span, but I tend to pass out halfway through such things. An analogous endeavor would be to attempt to explain the levels of the hydrogen atom without using the Schrodinger equation. And in fact, some people do try to do that! And it all looks like magic. But the most serious drawback is that nothing is learned. If you don't build the foundation of a uniform approach, the next problem will look just as challenging as the last.
Deriving the relativistic aberration is a one-liner. (Well Ok, maybe two.) A light ray is described by a propagation vector k = (kx, ky, kz, kt). Under a Lorentz transformation,
kx' = γ(kx + v/c kt)
ky' = ky
kz' = kz
kt' = γ(kt + v/c kx)
If the ray is propagating at an angle θ with the x-axis, k = (k cos θ, k sin θ, 0, k), and
kx'/ky' = γ(kx + v/c kt)/ky
⇒ cos θ'/sin θ' = γ(cos θ + v/c)/sin θ