CKH said:
two things happen absolutely simultaneously (because they happen at the same place) when the traveler instantaneously reverses direction. The traveler moves from an outgoing inertial frame, where his clock defines current time throughout the spatial extent of that frame, to an ingoing inertial frame. The traveler's clock does not change at the instant of turnaround.
The first "happening" is not really a happening, as you describe it; changing your state of motion does not "move" you from one inertial frame to another. It just changes how your worldline is described in all inertial frames. What physically happens at the turnaround is that the traveling twin experiences proper acceleration: he fires rockets or otherwise exerts a force on his ship to change its motion. If the traveling twin chooses to switch his description of physics from one inertial frame to another when he turns around, that's a choice he makes which is perfectly valid but not required by any physics.
The second "happening" is fine, but it only applies to the traveling twin's clock. It does not apply to other clocks that are spatially separated from him (such as the stay-at-home twin's clock). If the traveling twin chooses to change which inertial frame he uses to describe his motion when he turns around, then that change automatically changes the reading on the stay-at-home twin's clock that is simultaneous with a given reading on the traveling twin's clock. I don't think you disagree with this because you say the sme thing yourself, just in slightly different words.
CKH said:
it can be shown to be a gap by physical experiment (however difficult that experiment may be).
Can you describe such an experiment?
CKH said:
the home clock does not "jump" in reality.
"Reality" is a loaded word. A better way of stating this is: events which are close together on the home clock's worldline will have the home clock displaying time readings that are close together. But different inertial frames may pick different events on the home clock's worldline as happening "now" (i.e, simultaneously with some faraway event), and those different events don't have to be close together.
CKH said:
The jump only occurs from the perspective of the traveler's changing frame of motion.
This is equivalent to saying that it happens because the traveler changes his simultaneity convention, which is what I was saying. Changing frames, in the sense you are using the term (at least, as you appear to be using it most of the time--see my next comment below), necessarily includes changing simultaneity conventions.
CKH said:
That is it happens in this changing frame.
If "in this changing frame" refers to an inertial frame, then this is not quite right, because there are two different inertial frames, involved, not one. it happens because the traveler switches from one frame to another for purposes of describing what's going on. As I said above, there is nothing in the physics that requires him to do this; it's just a choice he is free to make (or not to make).
If "in this changing frame" refers to a non-inertial frame in which the traveler is always at rest, then we are back to all the issues with non-inertial frames that have already been discussed in this thread, and I don't see the point of rehashing them. All of this is a question of words anyway, not physics; we all appear to agree on the physics, as in the actual observations that the different observers make. The only discussion we are having is about how to describe those observations in words.
CKH said:
there is nothing mathematically inconsistent about analyzing the twin paradox in this way
Of course not. As long as you correctly calculate the gap, and include it in your prediction of what the home clock will read when the traveler returns, you will get the right answer this way, yes.