sophiecentaur said:
By looking at our surrounding bright astro objects, we could deduce our orbit and we would identify that there was a mass (or equivalent) in there, keeping us in place. There would be an Equivalent Mass in there and we could hazard a guess about how much room it takes up.
Again, this is a global property of the space-time which a priori tells you nothing about the local stress-energy tensor. Furthermore, your assumption on "how much room it takes up" is also predicated on an assumption about a Euclidean space. This is (very) far from the situation in the case of a black hole and your hazarded guess will be wildly speculative at best.
sophiecentaur said:
As far as we are concerned, that would correspond to a density.
No it would not. It would have the physical dimension of a density, but it would tell you nothing of the actual density you would find there.
sophiecentaur said:
you are invalidating every model of the Universe that existed before GR and Black Holes got going because the old model don't tell the whole story.
Good! No model before GR gave a proper description of a black hole! Yes you can compute your "density", but it will not be a density in any usual sense of the word. You are refusing to accept that your classical view of space and time does not apply to the situation of a black hole.
That is not how science works. Your model tells you something about the
global property of the space-time only and therefore has little to do with the
local properties, e.g., the local density.
sophiecentaur said:
Can you really say that the definition that we all know and love is not a possible way of viewing this newly found phenomenon?
The problem of your density definition here is that you are implicitly defining a "volume" of the black hole. Defining this volume requires a simultaneity convention. This is not trivial to do in a black hole as, e.g., the radial coordinate is time-like. You cannot simply refer to "the frame in which the black hole is at rest", there is no good definition of this that extends into the black hole region - the volume of which you want to compute!
sophiecentaur said:
The actual volume of a black hole may not be "well defined" but we can surely assign some upper limit on it by occultation and lensing effects.
No, this is what you do not seem to grasp. The Schwarzschild radius of the black hole
does not give you a volume in any reasonable sense of the word. You are trying to squeeze a square block through a round hole.